Hello everyone,
I'm after some advice as we embark upon the adoption journey. Specifically, I would like to understand if, in your opinion, we are likely to be rejected.
I'm 45 and my husband of 20 years is 50. We have one 10 year old DS.
We both work full time - me in the public sector and my DH in a senior IT role - but I'd be happy to drop to part time after one year of adoption leave or even give up my role.
We have a spare bedroom, we own our house outright and are secure financially.
We don't have any previous marriages or children with other people, no criminal convictions, no adoption or fostering or divorce in our birth families. We don't smoke and don't drink. We've lived in the same place for over 20 years so have a good support network in terms of friends and neighbours.
Now for the possible negatives:
We're both on a low dose of a mainstream anti-depressant. I went on it after my son was born as I had post-natal OCD. I tried to come off it but had a relapse in my OCD in 2016 for no apparent reason and I've been back on the antidepressant ever since and been very stable. I have also had CBT for OCD which has helped hugely. I'm reluctant to try to come off the pills again because my OCD is well controlled and I have no side effects from the medication.
My husband went on antidepressants 3 years ago following a very stressful period at work. He's discussed coming off the pills with his GP but they have agreed there is no reason to at the moment as his work is prone to stressful periods and he's doing well on the medication.
The other thing which could be an issue is that about 15 years ago we both had an affair - first him, then me - and we almost split up. This would be documented in our medical history as I was frequently speaking to my GP at the time because of feeling very low and GP was acting as a counsellor almost. We're well over the troubled times and our relationship has never felt more secure but I'm wondering if the affairs need to be disclosed or if they will come out because of the medical notes: are Social Services going to request our full medical history?
I'm truly grateful for your opinions.
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LoveAndLemons · 31/03/2022 20:20
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