Adopted is my mom and step dad to old 54 and 55

[Chelski1995s]

Hi I was wondering if any one could help me I recently had my kids taken from me due to dv and I'm under going my assessment I feel it will come back negative so I have aslo put my mom and step dad forward my mom at the moment is 54 and my step dad is 55 wen this is proply all over my mom will be 55 and I have put her forward to adopt my kids as I will like them to stay in the family she has passed her viability assessment but she now needs to do the full assessment I worrying she is to old to adopt my 1 year old 2 year old and 8 year old she is fit and healthy and still work do u think thus age would matter as I thinking that they will say she is a little to old

@Chelski1995s
Hello, I'm sorry you are in this situation, I hope you get the support you need.
No I don't think your mum and step dad will be seen as too old. Social workers much prefer to keep children within the family.
I was recently approached about a connected child who was 2 at the time, I'm 56.
As long as your mum is willing and able financially to have the children I would think she is the preferred option. Is it definitely adoption and not an SGO?

Not too old at all. So sorry you are going through all of this x

I'm not to sure wat It will be as they are in Foster care ATM so I don't no weather it will be a residential order or adoption till there 18 and thank u I'm praying she passes well I praying I do but I no they take domestic violence very serious

Thank u and this has put my mind a little at ease

I am so sad to read your post I hope things get sorted out soon. As for your mom and step dad no I am sure they are not too old, DH and I were 65 and 68 when our 3 year old AD was place with us, she is now 16 and has complex health needs she keeps us going! Good luck x

Hi I'm sorry to hear that you are in this situation. Definitely won't be considered too old. Please don't give up hope though. If you can prove that you have left this situation, that you are aware of what the risks to your child were and that you are willing to actively follow all advice and recommendations then there is hope for unification. Of course I appreciate that these situations are very complex and it's easy for me to say that.

If you're in the UK it would usually be under an SGO (special guardianship order) and your parents wouldn't be considered too old. You would also retain some parental responsibility. Are you still in the DV relationship? Are you getting any support to leave or to process what you've been through?

Yes I'm in the UK and yes I have left the relationship and yes I have alot of support and have been doing the freedom programme etc which I've completed

Hi. @Chelski1995s Well done for doing the Freedom Programme. I hope it helped.
We adopted our great nephew a while back but its very unlikely your mum and sdad will adopt your kids. Its far more likely they will get an SGO. Its not definite that they will be allowed to but they do have a good chance. Can I suggest they get in contact with The Family Rights Group as soon as possible. They will get all the info they need to make sure they have the best chance of success.

Its really important they know the law around kinship care and your kid's rights to stay within the family wherever possible.

I hope that your assessment is positive and the kids can stay with you when its safe to do so.

Good luck.

Yes sorry it called a residential order I got it wrong that's what my parents are going for but fingers crossed I pass my self And thank u and yes I have taken down I will be ringing family rights group tomorrow