Adoption

[Fostermummyto2littleones]

Evening all I've just joined this forum hoping that I can ask advice and share my thoughts with others.
Me and my fiance have been foster carers for a few years. We currently have two siblings, the eldest came into our care then her sibling came to us at birth not long afterwards.
Nearly 18 months later they're still with us.
They both call us mommy and daddy and we all have such a big bond.
Me and my fiance for a while have been talking about the affect it would have on the children when they move on, especially the eldest due to her age. We've known for a while it was going to end up as adoption.
Cut a long story short we decided that we would like them both to stay with us so we've recently put ourselves forward to adopt them both.
Their social worker is so pleased with our decision.
We're having a meeting in a couple of days time with their social worker and our social worker to discuss it then a social worker from adoption agency will be allocated to us.
I'm feeling so nervous/scared as I was told the agency searches for a family for them and then they decide who's best to have the children.
I'm scared of losing them 😭😭

Has anyone else adopted their foster child/children xx

I'm sorry I've not been in this situation, but I think you sound lovely and I think the fact you've known them both so long will go well in your favour.

Good luck.

The foster carers of one of ours decided to do this but after much consideration and a full risk assessment it was decided the child would be safer being placed further away from the birth parents. The foster carers of our other LO had an SGO for one of hers instead of an adoption order

If they've been with you this long, if a birth family member was is in the picture they would have surfaced by now.

There is always a chance that some obscure family member would pop up but I would hope SWs would weigh that up against removing them from a settled home.
Good luck !!

Thank you all for the replies.
Hi Italiangreyhound awwww thank you so much for your lovely reply.

Hi ifchocolatewerrcelery social services want it to be adoption so the children are more secured and in a forever family.

Hi Ted27 a few family members have come forward but their assessments were negative and definitely no more family members to be put forward.

It's the adoption agency that I've been told they find a family that are waiting to adopt then they decide whats best for the children if they go to them or stay with us. Surely as they're both been with us so long and they're both settled it would be in the children's best interest to stay with us.

I think once the court has agreed a placement order for adoption then the matching begins ( ideally it should be earlier).

As foster carers was it ever suggested it could be a foster to adopt placement?

As foster carers who are adopting you will be entitled to continue to receive the fostering payments for 2 years, but I'm sure they will provide you with that information.

I hope they are able to remain with you; you sound like a settled little family.

Good luck