Too many opinions...

[Rosebud2005]

When it somas to birth family, what happened etc do you ever get your own family or other people expressing their opinions on the matter even when it’s nothing to do with them?

Oh my god yes all the time, everything on the spectrum from positive to negative and all completely misinformed. We don't tell anyone details but people who know our LO is adopted jump to their own conclusions. It's so annoying.

You’re not kidding. We’re eight years in and it’s still the same. The only difference is I’m becoming more bunt in my responses .

Yes, and everyone was so opinionated, our first AC has Down Syndrome and they all kept being so negative and kept saying are you sure you know what you are doing! Next time we told only good supportive friends .

Not friends and family, at he very start a couple asked questions but we were clear it’s not up for discussion. Our kids are loved and accepted for who they are by both sides of our family.

Folk who don’t know us so well but know about the adoption sometimes pass comment but I tend not to care about them or their opinions, I’ll just create a bit of distance if they keep on. What kind of things are they saying? That would influence my response hugely.

There was a friend of a family member who seemed to have this image that children in care go around hitting and smashing things up! At least that’s how it came across every time we saw him he’d say has * calmed down now?? I mean - he never wasn’t calm! So how and where they got this idea from I would like to know because it made me so angry. Dh family have never offered to take ds out, stay over, phone to check how he is... nothing. So I have my suspicions. How they got the idea ... Anyway, I know longer care about opinions, ideas, etc. He’s our son, we love him, he’s working hard at school, has loads of friends. We couldn’t be prouder parents. They can all go and *** !