Adopting two then two more

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About 8 years ago we adopted siblings. Things are fantastic, not without issues but manageable and we have a great life together.

And now I’d like to do it again - adopt two more.

Have you? Should I? Why? Why not? Am I mad for even thinking it? Is it allowed?

I’d like two more because I wouldn’t want a new singleton to be outnumbered by the existing two. There would be a significant age gap so they’d already be the odd one out.

At the moment I work. If we were to do this, I’d stop working completely.

We have a big enough house and enough money.

I think I’d like to, but I worry that I’ve forgotten just how hard the early years were. But at the same time, I’ve learned so much, and gained so much more confidence. I think it would be really good for our existing children too (once they got used to it.)

We’re late 40s. (DH hasn’t said no, but I don’t think he’s taking me seriously yet. I don’t know if I’m taking myself seriously yet!)

No advice but good luck.

I think that would be amazing. Tough but you've now so much experience. That's why people foster for years too

Although next siblings might have much bigger issues

Both of mine were fine until around the time they turned 16, the second one also coinciding with the pandemic. It has nearly broken me.

So make sure you have spare capacity for the teen years.

Yours may be fine of course.

Honestly, I'd vote insanity. The teen years are challenging at the best of times.

I know people who have adopted 4 children and I have persoanlly adiopted 2 (thinking about number 3!) so I say go for it !!

My cousin has adopted 2 sibling groups of 4 she says it is hardwork (understatement) but is also very proud of them. She is now a very proud grandmother of 3 (at the last count!) Good luck!