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[adoptivemummy87]

Regular poster but have name changed for this. Is anyone here also part of the Instagram adoption community and can tell me what the hell is going on? I haven't been on Instagram for a while but do follow a lot of fellow adopters / prospective adopters. Had a scroll through today and there's lots of posts about being able to trust certain accounts and suggestions that someone has been reporting accounts to social services. But I'm just piecing together things I've seen and don't really know what's happened. It all seems a bit weird/worrying and I was just wondering if anyone could fill me in. Thanks.

I'm not part of it, but online groups implode like this. It's what happens, and why online can never replace real life. I hope everyone's ok.

Essentially people have set up false adoption based instagram accounts, but these accounts have been up and running for months. The owners of said accounts are doing a variety of things, reporting genuine accounts as false to get them locked, but some have befriended adopters to gain their real names, where they have been successful they have reported false abuses social services.

Me and some friends run an adoption based instagram, we have been targetted as our page has been reported as fake/stolen, the person who did this stole our content and posted it on their own page.

An adopter in my real life adoption group was reported to social services, he has never revealed his name, we think the person used reverse image search as this would produce his works info page, which of course has his fullname on. So they instantly can determine his fullname, his husbands full name and their sons full name, thats all you need for a report really.

People abusing adopters and adoptees on twitter has been fairly common place for a while, it seems they have outgrown twitter.

I was on a FB group that derailed because an (understandably) angry adoptee kept infiltrating it then sharing the posts on her twitter. I left because I didn't like how insensitively some of the group were talking about this poor girl (and thus only proving her point) I also left because moderators started demanding that we start submitting our children's adootion paperwork as proof of our authenticity (WTAF) I think the lesson here is that NOWHERE on the net is safe. We need a place to rant and be candid about the realities of adoption but once it's put online it's there forever for potentially anyone to see. As a general rule I say nothing anywhere online if I wouldn't be prepared to say it or at least defend it to my dd and others close to us. It just isn't worth the risk x

It is shocking how much abuse there is around adoption. I have seen adoptee support groups infiltrated with mindless abuse, saying the adoptees deserved what they got, you just wonder wtf really.

It is shocking how much abuse there is around adoption. I have seen adoptee support groups infiltrated with mindless abuse, saying the adoptees deserved what they got, you just wonder wtf really.

I stick with this site because it's by far the most chilled but (on here and especially on Chat or AIBU) you still periodically get the anti-adoption nutters.

I suppose, given the reasons most (by no means all) children are removed, it's not surprising that birth family and friends are sometimes utterly horrible people.

@donquixotedelamancha

it's not surprising that birth family and friends are sometimes utterly horrible people but surely it won't be birth family and friends infiltrating adoptee sites?

Anyone who maliciously causes harm to anonymous users is dispicable, what has happened with instagram is indefensible, we can agree on that, but I am not sure your comment helps the situation, apparently "most" birth parents who are not capable of parenting well enough are not the "utterly horrible" types, in terms of numbers those who are "utterly horrible" are supposed to be the minority.

This site is safer than instagram and facebook, I think, in terms of staying anonymous, but I am probably being naive! I think it is really sad that there are people who spend their time identifying people who want to be anonymous, and then hounding them.

despicable