Are we likely to be accepted to adopt?

[Bromley94]

Hi,

My and my husband have recently registered for adoption, we’ve been unable to conceive naturally but after long conversations both excited about the possibility of having our own family through adoption!

I’ve been reading through so many different forums and I’m worried that we may not be accepted into the programme. I’ve had anxiety in the past that need therapy treatment and I know they will do a check with our GP. I haven’t relied any medications for over 2 years. Financially we are good ( combined £58k yearly) we also have a car loan and a small amount of savings. I’m wondering whether this could go against us or if anyone’s had any experience of having to pay stuff off before being accepted?

My mind is racing with different questions and I’m wondering what your experiences were?

Thank you in advance x

Your finances should be okay..as long as you have a surplus income each month and can afford the adoption leave then you should be fine.

The anxiety just be as honest as possible. I have had anti depressants prescribed twice in the past for isolated incidents and this did not go against me as we could evidence the circumstances and the doctor confirmed for them that he had no concerns regarding my ongoing mental health.

I would suggest that the anxiety won't go against you. Try and be honest with your SW and turn it into a positive - you didn't ignore it. You went for appropriate help and support and you managed your feelings. Much as you would do for a child who needed support.

Most people would come to adoption with some form of credit outstanding eg mortgage, car loan, credit card. It’s not an issue as long as there are no financial difficulties ie no unpaid credit agreement etc.

In terms of anxiety, and mental health generally, infertility and all that goes with it causes incredible stress levels, I’d be surprised that someone didn’t have some mental health concerns throughout that process. It’s about having good coping mechanisms in place, knowing how to recognise when your mental health is slipping and being able to seek help. Prior mental ill health isn’t in itself a concern though they’ll want to explore that with you.

Good luck

We were approved and husband had epilepsy and on anti-depressants. The question always is - can you raise children safely and with love. If the answer is yes then..... xxx

We were approved and there is a long history of mental health issues. Like someone else said you have to be honest and think about how would you cope if your anxiety was going to become an issue again. Do you have the support behind you? Would you be willing to take medication again? Would you ask for help? Are there people around you who would notice if you are struggling? Adoption is mentally exhausting so you need to be prepared for that. Not just the process itself but what happens when you’re approved, placement, potential issues that may arise later on down the line. It’s just a good idea to have coping strategies in place.
Your finances shouldn’t be a problem in my opinion.