Just what I'd hoped for

[AthenaMinerva]

Every so often we need a positive story to remind us why we went/are going through all the crap that applying to adopt involves. We have a BD and so wanted a sibling for her. I imagined them playing together and making each other laugh, and in turn making us laugh. This morning that was exactly what happened. DD was clowning around to make her DB (our AD, aged 2) laugh. He was giggling uncontrollably. It was just the perfect moment. He's been with us for 3 months now and it's so great to have these moments. (I'm deliberately not going to mention any of the stresses or challenges in this post, but be reassured there are some!)

@AthenaMinerva

thats lovely, these moments make it all worthwhile

Thanks - I mostly come on here to moan so thought I'd better redress the balance a bit! Obviously mistyped - AD should be AS.

Love a happy moment. Thank you for sharing.

Oh that is lovely thankyou for putting in some positive balance! It is such a dispairingly hard process its always good to have some happy stories!

Lovely.
I have so many happy day to day memories: walking to school, watching school performances, curled up reading stories, pancakes etc.

What a lovely positive post! I'm reading it whilst holding my 6 month old son, who we became EP carers for when he was 3 days old. About to apply for the adoption order in the next few weeks. He's utterly perfect and worth every second of our hugely delayed assessment process.

How lovely.

Our special family moments often happen during everyday activities rather than big events/holidays etc. I got ridiculously emotional watching my eldest at his reception Christmas school disco. He danced with his friends, bought himself some sweets from the tuck shop and didn’t have a care in the world. So different from the anxious little boy that came to us a year before.

Yes, DD (aged 13) got up and ready for school this morning without any angst, and headed off for the bus with a quick hug and kiss, looking forward to seeing her friends after the holidays...

It wasn't always like this, so it's lovely to see how far she has come.

Ah that's so lovely, had a similar moment myself the other day. Lo has been with us for 5 weeks now, she's 15m old. I was cooking tea and popped my head in to check on the kids and our birth son (4) was sat reading a book to his little sister. It melted my heart and reminded me why we were turning our lives upside down!

Bottle these moments! It's lovely when then happen, and they do happen. Mine are gorgeous together... When they're not quarreling! But it's delightfully normal, and that's all I ever asked for- normal, not perfect. This is good.