Wedding on dc birthday

[Passthebubbly]

Hi everyone
Not been here in a while hope you are all well.

Some advice needed, my best friends son got married last year lots of upheaval due to covid but we were there and watched from the sides to support. Renewal of vies and reception been arranged this year on ds birthday.

Most adopted parents will know birthdays can bring emotions (ds will be 11). My friend is not understanding why I am hesitant to come along. His bday is a weekend so it would be his entire day and with covid last year we couldn’t really do anything. He is just my world and want to make his day special but also want to keep my friend happy. Any thoughts? X

Sod your friend! It's her sons wedding let her worry about it.

You do what you need to do for child!

Your child comes first. His birthday before your friends sons wedding and his feelings before your friends.

The thing is your friend wants you to put her sons feelings and her feelings before your sons.

You were there at the actual wedding, don't worry about it. If she gets upset over it she needs to get over herself.

Have you asked your child what he wants? And discussed maybe having a really special day set aside whenever he wants to compensate? I agree though his feelings come first. Any doubt it's going to upset him then stuff your friend. She will get over it and if she doesn't she's not really a friend x

Thanks everyone.