Mind Blowing

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I was adopted at birth and am now mid 40's,I traced my birth mother a few years ago who was only 15 at the time of having me. Although we wrote a few times nothing really came of it.She mentioned that my birth father was someone she had met a couple of times and can't really remember his name .Sometimes when I think about it , it really blows my mind I don't have a bloody clue about my genetics and who made me .I was thinking about doing one of these ancestry DNA samples just to see if it brings up anything on my birth fathers side,what do you think has anyone done it ?And if so what happened ?

If you do go down the route of an ancestry DNA test you need to prepare for results you might not expect or want. Also the results aren't 100% (for example my grandmother also did one and on the ancestry side we are down as first cousins as one shares the same amount of DNA with a cousin as a grandparent etc.)

My family had an ancestry revelation last year and it really caused issues for a lot of people so please be kind on yourself if you do try and get results.

Your curiosity is absolutely natural, but it might be worth taking some time to think about your expectations and what you might want from any relatives you do find - maybe some counselling first ?

good luck with whatever you decide

Check out this short series. The presenter is an adopoted person who has discovered some of her birth family through DNA. She gives some excellend guidance and advice.

www.familysearch.org/rootstech/rtc2021/series/adoption

I've done this as my father was adopted but I didn't know him, its proved exciting and disappointing in equal measure.

I've found relatives on his side and many that are happy to help me narrow down then possibilities of my more direct relatives but no one close enough to give any firm answers.

I was sort of hoping for an aunt or uncle to pop up butalso because my grandparents were unlikely to be married to each other each genetic relationship is half, so someone might come up as a cousin once removed, but is actually a half cousin etc.

I've done 23 and me and plan on doing ancestry for my birthday, it has helped me feel a bit more connected to that side and confirmed some anecdotes about his adoption story which has been lovely.