Refusing to eat

[Rosebud2005]

When we were all young you wouldn’t dare not eat your dinner as you knew that was it. What do any of you do when it’s your adopted teenager who has been affected by traumas is refusing your food?

What do they want to eat? You can't force someone to eat.

Nothing, that’s just it. He barely eats

If grumpiness then leave them to it.
If anorexia / other MH then contact GP & PAS asap

Either way provide favourite dishes and most tempting food / snacks.

Is he underweight?

Is there any link to your experience as a child and his now?

Basically came in saw it, said that’s gross and walked away back to his room. I always say try food, I try not to force it but I’d like Him to taste what I make. I got so wound up Aw he was so rude

I think you may need to share more about your thoughts and concerns to allow appropriate advice.

Teenagers aren't known for their manners.

@Rosebud2005

Basically came in saw it, said that’s gross and walked away back to his room. I always say try food, I try not to force it but I’d like Him to taste what I make. I got so wound up Aw he was so rude

Have you tried talking to him about what he likes to eat?

Getting wound up isn't going to be remotely helpful and you are an adult in a position where you are able to help here.

That’s what I’m looking for, a way to help him with his own thoughts. I’ve spoke lately about him having spoke to me. We have now been in touch with counsellors who are assisting. All to do with past life etc. there’s still a lot he needs to zone to deal with. Eating has never been great but he does love veg so I give as much as possible. This was a one off where he just refused and was very blunt about it. We talk lots more now as we used to when he was little but not as much these days. He has said he’s a lot happier just in the fact that we have spoke. Still a way to go but hopefully we will get there. I tend not to force the eating thing as I said before but at the moment he’s sleeping all fat, eating one meal then rubbish through the night. We’re trying to set proper bed routines

I know it must be annoying to spend time cooking and for it to be refused, but to be honest with everything that you have going on at the moment, I wouldnt bother doing anything, particularly as you say in your later post its a one off.

But if he wants to eat is pizza or pot noodle or whatever let him get on with it. Or cook stuff that can be easily frozen.

You need to separate out your own issues about what and when he eats. I think you have enough to deal with without creating another point of tension.
Good to hear he is feeling happier now you have talked