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Changing jobs and adoption

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NickD87 · 24/02/2021 22:27

Hello!

My husband and I are now ready to put in our expression of interest forms. In September, we had all our meetings with LA and got great feedback from SW and the manager - with the advice that we wait until February to put in expression of interest. Reasoning was that we had moved to a new area and although we had friends around they wanted us to settle in...which is fair enough.

I've spoken to my HR department and they've been very supportive, and are expecting the employment checks through etc. They've never had an adoption query before (it's a big company, so I am surprised) so have written up an adoption policy - statutory leave....but have promised to bring up a query at board meeting about matching it to their Maternity policy - which would be great but not holding breath. To be honest, the whole company has gone down the pan in terms of their values and treating staff well and just lie to keep everyone 'happy'.

My jobs become very stressful. My manager left - had a long period of doing two roles - then was not even offered the chance to step up officially before a replacement was brought in, who I am now training up - which is a very bizarre situation. I feel undervalued and over-stressed. I've lost all my energy and it's zapping me.

I've decided I want to leave. I have two second interviews lined up this week - and a first interview next week. Been lucky that it seems it won't be difficult to find something else. I'm also applying for jobs back in the charity sector - where I have 10+ years managers experience - rather than this job which was my first foray into the a big online retailer. I just know it's the right thing to do for myself.

BUT - this process is the most important thing right now.

If I change jobs now, will this set us back? I don't want to be asked to wait another year.

It had been the intention I would likely not work for 6 months - but it would be tricky for a new role to receive this info very soon after I hypothetically join.

My husband is a founder of a small business...so I can see that in reality, it will likely be him that takes the 6 months-1 year off to care for any child placed as he can easily outsource work and still earn an income. He'd be happy with that...

Either way...does anyone have experience of changing roles before or shortly after starting the process? Would it be better for me to get the first forms in and then change during the process?

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AncientEmo · 24/02/2021 22:49

My wife changed jobs while we were in Stage 2 and again between linking and matching! I was really worried about it but it was fine and didn't set us back. I think as long as you can show you've thought it through and are being sensible (which it sounds like you are), won't have a major financial impact etc then you're okay. Having said that, I was the one taking a year off so that wasn't impacted. I think the stress of adoption process + a stressful job would be too much, the process takes a while so don't put your life on hold. Good luck with your interviews :)

Jellycatspyjamas · 25/02/2021 09:18

I changed jobs during my home study, it was seen as a positive because I moved from a very stressful, long hours job to one that was more 9-5 without the travel and stress of my previous role. By the time we were matched I had been in post just over a year and took a years adoption leave, no differently than if I’d fallen pregnant after joining.

You should be fine, especially if your new job is well suited to family life.

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