Profile- what next?!

[Kw1311]

So I’m in a head spin we were shown a profile of 2 wonderful LO’s yesterday and told we were 1 if 2 shortlisted family’s on paper I already feel so connected to them and want to explore this as a match.

Our social worker has advised she is confident we will be selected but then didn’t tell us then next steps timescales or anything i feel in total limbo?!

What happens now? I’m in the uk England.

Thank you in advance

Exciting! Ask all the questions you need to, including timescales, when we were shown a match they said it would be 2-3 months to matching panel, but thats going to completely depend on a whole range of things so youd best ask I think! Super exciting!

Think of questions you want to ask- foster carers, medical examiner, birth family- if you get the option will you meet them? You’ll likely have a meeting with the children’s SW so they can get a feel for you. They’ll then have a meeting with their manager to make the decision. There’s still going to be a long wait if they do pick you, so try to remember you’ve likely got a couple of months before you might meet them good luck!!!

Really hope this works out for, just wanted to add be careful with your excitement at the moment. This happened to us just before Xmas, our sw said it was so unlikely we wouldn't get picked and we got so excited only to be told after 2 weeks that they had in fact decided to go with another family. It was devastating! We are now 100% matched with another lo and we start intros in a week. She gorgeous and can't imagine not having her so it all worked out. But just wanted to say protect yourself a bit!!! Fingers crossed for you xx

Hi. That’s great news, but with adoption you need to be very cautious and try not to become too emotionally involved until matching panel. When we started the matching process we too were told that we were the perfect family for a baby and later two brothers, and later in the matching process there were issues which meant things didn’t work out, twice. Just like you we also felt very connected with these children, and with the two brothers we even met their foster carer, social worker and some key people in their lives. However due to court proceedings and a family member putting themselves forward things just didn’t work out. Anyway, after that we did find our lovely sons, but we were very cautious until being approved by matching panel. Good luck and hope everything works well for you.

Are they siblings? If so, it can sometimes
make it slightly easier for the children (although not always) as they have each other for support and company. Good luck!