AD not calling for us on waking

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Hi there, I don't know if I'm over thinking this given everything I've learnt about attachment during the adoption process and beyond.
Our AD came home almost 6 months ago. She is 23 months old now. She is wonderful and we have had a great start and she seems very settled and is showing attachment in many ways towards me as her primary carer but also to my DP.
She has always been a great sleeper even at her foster carers since being a tiny baby. We have kept her routine exactly as her FC did since she has been with us. Bedtime routine is calm ie bath/wash, pj's, milk, story & cuddles then we lie her down in her cot. She is always awake when she goes down and just says 'night night' to us and settles herself down for sleep. In the morning she wakes up about 7 and we go in with a bottle for her just after this. This morning it made me think as I slept through my alarm so didn't go into her till after 7.30 so she would have been awake for over 30 mins but she never calls for us when she wakes up, she's just happy with her teddies in her cot.
I don't want to cause an issue if there is none and of course do not want her to be distressed but I wondered if this was usual that she is not needing more comfort/reassurance and maybe is this a sign she is not as attached to us as I thought she may be - appreciating this takes months/years to fully build.
I haven't worried so far as she was always like this with fc but this morning it just got me thinking.
Thank you if anyone has experienced similar.

This is one of those questions where it could be completely"normal" but you tie yourself up in knots wondering if it's attachments/adoption related - I know the feeling!!

I am not a child development expert but it could be that she's secure in the knowledge you will come, so doesn't feel the need to call out. Maybe she's just quite chill in the mornings! Maybe if you left her longer she would call for you (but I don't advise experimenting with this!)

6 months is still early days so in any case you might find things change and she does start calling you in the morning. It sounds like you're doing a wonderful job.

Our LO is around the same age and has been in our care since birth. They are exactly the same as this in the morning - they never call on us but when we go in around the time we know they are due to wake they can be sitting up playing quietly with teddies. Often when we do go in we are told by them to "sit down" because they are not ready to get up yet and want to keep playing. I have worried at times about this and know it could mean different things for different children but I believe, for us, it shows a wee one who feels secure enough to play, safe in the knowledge that the people who love them will be there soon for a cuddle. From what you say it sounds like your little girl is the same.

Thank you for your replies. I know what you mean AncientEmo, I find myself second guessing various behaviours and wondering if that is what most toddlers do or if it is related to adoption!
I really hope that it is because she feels safe and secure and knows we are there. She is very 'busy' all day so probably enjoys the down time.

I think you are overthinking it. You should actually consider yourself very lucky! I wish mine were happy playing in their beds in the morning until I woke up.

My DD was the same. She has been home for 9 months (now 18 months old). Since the start of this year she has always cried on waking. So I would enjoy the peaceful starts whilst you can. They may not last!

She sounds like a very contented toddler. If she was sitting waiting for you when you in, or was distressed upon seeing you that would be different but if she’s happily playing I’d not worry too much.

My youngest was the same, he came home at 7 months and did this until around his 2nd birthday. For some reason (possibly due to lockdown and lots of things changing this last year he stopped being able to self settle at night, in the night or the morning and is always in our bed now! We put him back to sleep ten times a night sometimes and are only just getting back to him letting us leave him to fall asleep. No idea what is "normal" or not but enjoy your LOs routine now as it could change. Not that I mind the cuddles either tho!

Thank you all. I will make the most of the peaceful mornings for the time being
Im sure when she's out of the cot it'll be a different story!

My LO did this as I learnt that the FC wasn't allowed to settle the babies in the bedrooms so used to do the bedtime routine in the front room and then put them in their rooms where they would fall asleep.

People though I was crazy when I broke my LO out of the habit and cuddled him to sleep which he hated. Once I broke the habit (crazy me) he made me sit in his room for ages whilst he fell sleep. But, he also learnt to call me when he would wake up.

My LO would also only want to sleep in his bed so when he was ill and I wanted to watch him he would struggle in my bed. 3 yeas on and (damm) every morning I wake up and he's in my bed (or our bed as he calls it))