Hi all, I’m really hoping to speak to someone for some words of wisdom about my situation. I have a nine year old biological child who is ASD, which largely presents mildly and affects his education more than anything (at this point).
I have waited a long time to start the adoption process because I wanted to ensure his absolute stability at school and in general, but I am now worried I have left it too long.
I’ve had our initial visit today albeit virtually, and whilst we had a really good, long discussion, the social worker focused quite a bit on my son, his relationship with me and the natural concerns about him having to share me, bond with a third person after so long (it has always been just us).
I appreciate all of that and have obviously considered it but my opinion is that even if the transition is difficult, the long term gain far outweighs this as with any adoption scenario. I don’t actually anticipate that it will be as difficult as she fears, he is an extremely loving little boy who is desperate for our family to grow but I appreciate I have mum eyes and she is the expert.
She didn’t give me an indication either way as to whether she thought we would progress to the full home assessment so I’m keeping an open mind but I am much more nervous that this maybe isn’t an option for my family than I ever have been before.
Whether single or with a partner I would appreciate any advice from adopters who had older bio children to begin with about what to expect and anything I can do in the mean time, thank you xx