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It doesn't feel real

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Runner31 · 10/01/2021 22:51

I feel like I need to pinch myself but after all the stress and turmoil from trying to build a family we are there. There is a 7yr old asleep in the other room. I've posted a few times and got great advice about dogs, sibling adoption, money and more recently being called mum and dad. I've received great advice and just wanted to post and celebrate the success of it all finally coming together. We're enjoying the honeymoon bliss at the moment (long may it last) but the best part about the whole thing is that right now, right in this moment, it feels normal and totally right. I wouldn't say there's love but there is comfort and care, fears and tension and we're all getting to know each other. As my sister in law said, it sounds like the beginning of true love.

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mummykauli7 · 10/01/2021 22:53

Congratulations!! A wonderful thing to read before I nod off. X

percypetulant · 10/01/2021 22:54

It's brilliant, isn't it. Bottle it, take a photo of them asleep, write down how you feel. In case there's bumps in the road, you need to hold on to this!

Mine are asleep, and perfect. (Just don't for god's sake wake them!!!)

olderthanyouthink · 10/01/2021 22:54

Grin congratulations

percypetulant · 10/01/2021 22:55

Sorry, and yes! Congratulations!

Jellycatspyjamas · 10/01/2021 23:02

Many congratulations, I’m delighted for you and yes, it’s so important to enjoy those “this fees right” moments - may you have many, many of those.

Weekends · 10/01/2021 23:11

Congratulations! And well done - you got your child to sleep!
Sleep well and enjoy. X

Italiangreyhound · 10/01/2021 23:25

Well done. Flowers

Ted27 · 10/01/2021 23:28

what a lovely update

my boy was 7 when he came home.

Congratulations and enjoy getting to know each other

WoahBodyforrrm · 10/01/2021 23:31

Massive congratulations 🥰 such a lovely post to end the day with!

121Sarah121 · 11/01/2021 06:57

Congratulations! What a lovely post. 7 is such a great age. You can play games and don’t have to pretend to lose - they really best you without trying! Toys are much more interesting too. :) may you have lots of opportunities for bonding and getting to know each other.

PaintedLadyWBB · 11/01/2021 07:16

That is so lovely. Congratulations

scully29 · 11/01/2021 08:04

Oh congratulations! And thanks for posting its always so lovely to read positive posts as theres so much negativity. Thats just wonderful. Ive a 7 year old they are fab! :)

UnderTheNameOfSanders · 11/01/2021 08:11

Congratulations. Flowers Our eldest was nearly 8 (y3) when she came home.
Enjoy the lockdown for some good close bonding, even if you can't go out and do much.
Don't worry about online schooling, but reading together is great for snuggling up.

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Runner31 · 11/01/2021 08:37

@UnderTheNameOfSanders and @Ted27 any advice would be greatly appreciated. Hid level of understanding of adoption must br very different to that of a 3yr old. That will have some positives and negatives so any tips on the early days would be fab. He's looking for lots of reassurance of him staying. He's put pictures of him and his siblings around the house and talks a lot about them. They were all seperated so i've put up a map and given him the option of popping a pin in where they are so he has a visual for them. He will keep contact with some.

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UnderTheNameOfSanders · 11/01/2021 08:45

In the first months DD wanted to understand why she couldn't have direct contact with BM. We had to go back to the SWs a few times so we really understood the reasoning so we could be confident in our assertion that the SW/Judge were right in this.

Otherwise I'd just say don't assume too much maturity or skills. If in doubt go younger.

Ted27 · 11/01/2021 15:40

Its a good time of year to be thinking about planning a vegetable garden

you could get some quick wins in with things like cress and pea shoots which you will be able to eat in a week to 10 days.
If you don’t have much space and or dont want to dig up your garden, there are loads of things you can grow in pots. Very good for talking about when you will be harversting and what you will make with them

My son still has a passing interest in our allotment - mainly at the eating end of the process
Could be good for you - its something to do when there isnt much to do, and you can work in some home education

I’ve got a teachers resource pack which is a month by month guide of projects you can do - you are welcome to have it if you message me your address

January is a good month to start a wormery !

Weekends · 11/01/2021 15:55

My LO used to like to lay the table for dinner for us both straight after breakfast when she first came home, that way she knew she was coming home from school to me. Cannot remember the last time she has done that at any time of day!

Blondie1980s · 19/01/2021 20:54

Congratulations on the coming home of your little person!
Mine is now 17 months, but i can honestly say the first week of intros and the first night he came home it was the most surreal feeling ever. Happiness, shock, awe, a little fear of if he would like it, if i would be able to do the best for him and cope, and excitement for him to get up the next morning and have the first morning rise.
Even if its not love at first sight i can tell its on it way clearly.

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