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Will this be an instant no?

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LovesFood1987 · 12/11/2020 20:12

DH and I are in the very (very!) Early stages of researching adoption.

Obviously neither of us have criminal convictions etc but a member of DH extended family has convictions against children (absolutely horrific I know Sad).

That family member never comes to our house, he doesn't live anywhere near us, he has nothing to do with our birth child and of course will have absolutely nothing to do with any adopted child if we're ever lucky enough to get to that point.

Does anyone have any experience of this? I'm going to be devastated if another person's actions that we have no control over mean we can never be considered for adoptive parents but totally understand that the possible adoptee is the absolute priority not how we feel.

Thanks in advance.

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Jellycatspyjamas · 12/11/2020 20:44

You should be fine, they will want to explore the situation, how you feel about his conviction, the wider family relationships and whether he would have access to any children (which you’re already clear about). If you can show appropriate reflection on what he’s done and can act to protect any children placed with you, I can’t see why it should stop you adopting.

BFJAdopter · 12/11/2020 21:26

I knew another adopter with a similar situation. As long as you are clear they will be no part of your support network or have any contact with your children it shouldnt be an issue.

Italiangreyhound · 13/11/2020 20:57

Just be open and honest. You will be fine. Good luck.

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