Interesting read

[Rosebud2005]

I just wanted to put this up here. A book I’m currently reading, ‘Raising Adopted Teenagers.’ It’s a very intense and in-depth insight into the traumas as a baby then how it is carried through their lives, way to handle things. If anyone else is looking for something like this I recommend it

Do you mean Parenting Adopted Teenagers by Rachel Staff?
The author is a SW?

Yeah couldn’t change it once I posted it lol

Thanks for sharing. Are you reading it now you have teenagers or in prep for? I'm scared of I read it it will scare me off adopting at all!

Hi! My son will be 15 in a few weeks. We can’t say we’ve ever had a lot of issues with him other than when he moved in age 7 he kicked off a fair bit but it really didn’t last long. I know compared to some we’ve been relatively lucky but coming up to this age I can see him changing in himself, he’s so quiet and can be so moody but again we don’t have big arguments or anything like that. I worry as he has other things going on emotionally in his private life that he’s been coming to terms with and that on top of exams, friends etc he’s just exceptionally quiet right now. I wanted to go back and read what we were taught back at the beginning so webcam give him the ongoing support he needs. He’s also talking about going back to see birth mum as soon as he can which also worries me for his own state of mind. I wouldn’t ever scare someone off adoption, it’s not an easy road to go down but it is so so rewarding as our children have had the worst starts in life with the people who should have been there for them and to be able to provide that life and the life and support they desperately crave is the best feeling. Good luck in your own journey xx

It is a hard read in places but it is helping me a lot to think of the ways in which I can be there for my son. These resources are invaluable to us x

Typos - sorry

Thank you. It really is good to hear what people think of books. I'm conscious that not all are good or useful. I love making lists of books I want to read so appreciate the recommendation. We are just making our way through 'Want to adopt?' by Helen Oakwater which has been so so useful as it is full of practical stuff. As well as 'The Primal Wound' which is such heavy going emotionally but also a good tool for us to have conversations around. We do often need to take breaks with that one though.

I hope you get some ideas regarding supporting your boy.

@Hotwaterbottlelove I think, personally, that the very best reading to start with is about child development generally, the wide parameters of "normal", and parenting advice in that context, written by psychiatrists and clinical psychologists, such as ahaparenting.com, to get as expert as possible on child development generally, because that really will stand you in good stead as adoptive parents. And then to build on that "expertise" or awareness by reading into trauma, attachment, as sort of specialist areas relating back to the broad base parenting knowledge, and again trying to focus on advice by psychiatrists and clinical psychologists - many are really good at explaining issues in lay terms, and it is far better to get advice from the horse's mouth, so to speak.

Hope that makes sense!