Single Potential Adoptee

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I am in a good place to adopt (good salary, own house, reasonable support network)
However I do not have any close make relatives - I have a brother but he's a man child who I never go to for support - a do gave a lovely male cousin, but we live a fair distance from each other.
My parents have passed away. I have lots of female friends but don't really know their partners/husbands because we don't socialise as a couple (because I'm not a couple) or as families (I don't have any children). My colleagues are all female too.

Will a social worker want me to try and get male friends before applying for adoption? I can't see this happening, I'm in my forties.

I can see it's a failing. I've never really had male friendships since school/uni - and those were temporary, I've always worked almost exclusively with females and I the same with hobbies. I like men's company and have had several long term relationships - but none that I wanted for life!

Hi please don’t worry about it.
I was in a very similar position and it wasn’t an issue at all.
Good luck

Hi I don’t think it will be a problem. The sws will be looking at your support network but not necessarily if male / female.

I am single with mainly female support network. I am thinking about how my son has good male role models both people we know but also making him aware of famous / historical people as he gets older.

I do think once he’s old enough to get into some sort of sport like football or rugby or whatever then it’ll be less of a worry (dance is first on the list to try though as he loves it )

Don't worry if you don't tick every box, all the way through you can tell it is simply geared up to check that you have the right reasons for wanting to do it.

As long as that is the case, we are all human and have a few things that could be better. I have yet to find someone who has the perfect job, family support network, has never done anything wrong in their life, has a background with children, no health conditions and a spare 20 hours a week.

No potential adoptee ticks all the boxes, so try not to panic or talk yourself down.

I’m a single adoptee, I don’t have any female friends, I have one female family member I’m in contact with (but she lives abroad), I do have a mother figure, but again she isn’t local. It really wasn’t a problem for me.

Lots of children are brought up in a single sex household due to having a single parent, it doesn’t stop those children experiencing the opposite sex. You also have to remember the things a man and woman can offer a child are exactly the same.

I have never found it a problem - I do try to find areas where DD can see male role models (e.g. Scouts, mixed sex schools etc), but as long as you are aware that any potential child will need a range of supportive adults, it shouldn't be a problem.