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UnderTheNameOfSanders · 30/06/2020 10:16

I saw another thread on this where I think I recognised the OP as an adopter.

How are all your DC coping with all this emotionally?

My DD (15 about to start y11) has had what could broadly be described as a breakdown during lockdown. I'm really worried about how she will cope at school - if we can get her there at all.

Our kids often need extra attention / support, nurture groups, 1-1 etc. How on earth is that going to work if schools aren't 'normal' in September?

I can imagine that for some of our kids the extra 'nurture' time at home will have been great, but for others the removal of 'normality' might have thrown them.

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Ted27 · 30/06/2020 20:22

Mine is up and down, strangely enough more down now he has regained some freedoms.
He gets up later each day, won't go out. I've offered to pay for pizzas for him and his 4 mates on what would have been prom night, and the cinema for his birthday - all met with a distinct lack of enthusiasm.

He is 16 and will be going to college and not back to school.I think he will be ok, I'm very impressed with the learning support people, still feels like a long haul before we get there though

UnderTheNameOfSanders · 01/07/2020 08:01

DD is due in next week.
I'll be pleased if I can even get her through the door each day.

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121Sarah121 · 01/07/2020 08:11

My son is much younger but I share the same concerns. He has loved being at home and the security of being the 4 of us. Even meeting family members has been very stressful. We went to the park yesterday and had to leave within minutes as he anxiety levels rose so much we through he might become violent. I have no idea how I’ll get him to school!

SimonJT · 01/07/2020 18:48

Okay, but he is only just five, so while his routine is very different he is easy to entertain, less aware of what is happening etc.

School not great, but no worse than it was before lockdown. He has some 1:1 due to being hearing impaired, school are hoping this will happen as normal in September.

Teacher12345 · 02/07/2020 18:19

We have had it okay until the last few weeks when it's really taken it's toll and compassion fatigue set in.
DD has been bloody awful today. I wanted her back in nursery this week but DH has been really nervous about the virus and wanted to wait until August. She will start school in September.

MutteringDarkly · 02/07/2020 22:07

My home-loving child eventually hit her limit a few weeks ago - she was scared she had lost all her familiar teachers/places/classmates forever. And of course that triggered other deep loss memories. I had a word with her teacher via email and (bless them forever) she was allowed to join the key worker/vulnerable group once a week. It's made a big difference - the joy of seeing her teacher seems to have carried her through all the other changes (different room, different group, mask etc).

I am not sure she'd have handled going from long isolation straight into a strange teacher in the autumn, so at least this gives a sort of bridge.

UnderTheNameOfSanders · 03/07/2020 08:13

DD was offered a place under vulnerable children a couple of weeks into term.
She couldn't cope.
Now she terrified, and is even anxious driving onto the school site.
Her counsellor asked whether she has an EHCP (she doesn't - hasn't needed one up to now). She suggested trying for one, but I know they take ages to get and she's going into y11.

I have no idea what to do. Suggestions?

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