Waiting for EP placement - feels surreal

[MadAdopter]

I am a single adopter and have been linked to a possible EP placement, the court hearing is next Wednesday and I am currently in a very surreal situation of trying to carry on as normal/simultaneously prepare to have a baby this time next week! I have told my line manager but I am not sure she quite believes that I could go on adoption leave next week.

My adoption process has taken two years to get to this point, I keep thinking I should feel more excited but at the moment I feel a little detached from it all, is this normal? I am probably suppressing feelings but it is all very odd.

All very normal. It is a very strange time, you will have all sorts of feelings - all perfectly valid.
Good luck !

How exciting! I remember it well as I was also a single adopter. Life changed beyond recognition but has been great ever since.

Lovely. What is the hearing for? A placement order? Do you know what equipment to buy, clothes etc?

@MadAdopter This is a very friendly forum and we are here to help if we can. Go easy on yourself. You have not had the benefit of the mental preparation a pregnancy would provide. I am not surprised it feels surreal. Perfectly normal and valid feelings. 😊💐

Hi, good luck!
As a single adopter (though different circumstances) I found intros and move in day a bit surreal. I remember setting off in the morning to collect my daughter on move in day thinking exactly that. I wandered around the local supermarket for ages beforehand as I was so early feeling really, really strange as well as happy. All normal I think!

Enjoy having your world turned upside down whenever it happens, and happy shopping!😀

Thanks everyone, I have a room full of stuff now but still feels weird. If the separation order is granted on Wednesday then I will have a baby pretty quickly, started to feel a little more excited as it gets closer....

Court hearing was yesterday, but no separation and the next contested hearing is on the 27th March. With coronavirus thrown into the mix no idea what will happen next! Feeling emotionally exhausted now.

💐((Hugs)) @MadAdopter, the process is a rollercoaster. Please get some rest and look after yourself. Are you getting good support from SW?

That’s so disappointing. Feel for you. You must be so emotionally right now.

My social worker came round to talk it through, it is a rollercoaster! It is causing problems at work, my boss was almost angry about me being matched and now the uncertainty is causing more tension.