@trefy Hi
I knew I really wanted a family. I was quite keen to adopt, but in the end we had a birth child first with an IUI cycle. Afterwards we were told it was very unlikely we would have another baby with my eggs.
We had IUI cycles and also had treatment with donor eggs. I did get very hung up on having another child!
Nothing worked, in fact I realised it was amazing I had ever carried a baby to term really, my body just seemed to not want to get and stay pregnant.
About 8 years ago we just came to the end of the road, waited our six months and signed on with an adoption agency, which was our local authority.
We heard about ds and just felt he was right. There was something about him that we both felt was right for us and that we would cope with any issues he may have etc. Having had lots of battles with our quirky, dyslexic dd and with school, trying to help her, we just felt we could cope with whatever he had on his plate! He came to us aged three and that was almost six years ago.
I must say it has never been easy. My kids don’t always get along and so much of the last six years has been managing their relationship and helping them to get along.
But I love them both immensely and would not be without them. The big age gap (almost 6 years) has helped at times and maybe at others been a hindrance.
Our dd was totally on board with us adopting and in fact she was a big reason we wanted to adopt. But she has been quite jealous of her little brother and it has not been easy. I’d say the first couple of years were the hardest. And it is getting better now. My dd is on the autistic spectrum and this is what has led to many of the issues, I think.
Good luck, feel free to ask anything you like but if you @Italiangreyhound me in then I will see it.
