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Had our phone call from SW to say that we will be progressing to the next stage in the new year! Really excited to get started. Due to health issues we will be going for early medicals but hopefully all will go well. We are getting married in April and also hoping to move house before then so SW recommended we thing about postponing starting until after April but I'm keen to get the ball rolling.

How exciting. You have a good sense of your capacity to cope, but you’ve got a lot on your plate early in the new year and throwing what can be a very invasive, challenging process into the mix may not be wise. Getting married and moving house are two of the most stressful experiences you can have, and putting your best into the adoption process is important.

I’d rather take the time out at the start of the year and come to the adoption process when you’re able to focus on it fully. It took me 3 years to get to approval because life just kept happening (significant physical health issues, change of job, two family bereavements, mental health issues), but we got there eventually. If we’d been approved sooner we wouldn’t have our little people because they weren’t in the system at that time.

I really understand just wanting to get on with it, do it when you can give it the attention it needs.

@jellycatspyjamas I reckon we will be better to postpone. As you say we really need to put out best into the the process and have out mind solely focused on that. Hopefully the medicals go well and we can get started after April 😊. I'm so happy everything worked out for you.

As frustrating as it is, you may find the delay doesn’t really affect you - you need early medicals and you've then got time to tackle any issues that might come up there. Good luck - next year is shaping up to be an exciting one for you both x

Excellent advice which I agree with. We decided to move to a bigger house after attending our first info evening. We were advised to do this first as home suitability is an important part of early assessment.

Ours took a while to sell then we had delays with purchase (stayed with family). Was just over a year later we finally had first home visit! Had no doors hung upstairs and no carpet...

But we've been approved at panel for our boys who we wouldn't have met otherwise. Definitely a marathon not a sprint