Would anyone like to update me?

[topcat2014]

I miss being on this board. (7 weeks ago 'my' prospective AC returned to FC). Lots on here were really kind. How are you all doing, (@Dlouise2004 @poppet31 and others..)

It’s really good to hear from you. Hope things are going ok for you and your family.

I don’t post much but have really found the message boards supportive knowing I’m not alone. I’ve a birth child aged 6 and adopted child aged 4 who joined our family a year ago.

I remember reading your messages and your pain and anguish around the situation was clear. Hope you andvyour family are supporting each other and have the support you need to get through such a difficult time.
Been thinking about you all

I have been thinking of you and wondering how things have been going topcat . Really hope you are getting the support you need.
We are all here if you want to keep in touch x

I've been thinking about you too Topcat...we had a match cancelled in June as we were literally waiting to go into panel which was horrible and gutwrenching. But I still can't imagine your pain and hope some time is helping.

We decided after taking some time out to try once more and have matching panel in January for 2 siblings. Trying to move forward positively without the emotional baggage from last match but it's hard.

Honestly? If we knew at the start what we would go through I don't think we would have started the journey.

Sending you positive thoughts

Hi Topcat. Lovely to hear from you. I think of you often.

Our little one has been with us 8 weeks and it's been so tough (see my ongoing thread.) There has been lots of days where I honestly thought our placement might break down, and if I'm totally honest, it still crosses my mind now and again. The main thing that keeps me going is knowing how awful I would feel if it didn't work out, so I can only begin to imagine what a tough time you are having. How is your counselling going?

First appointment this week, so will keep you posted

Also, if the fact that I can tell you how horrific it is to be in my situation hopefully will help you to carry on..

It does get a little easier each week, in that I can still function day to day.

@topcat2014 have you thought about what you want to happen in the future? Are you stepping back from adoption completely or is it too early to say?

@fairybatman afraid it is off three table for good. Was really down to DW, and wouldn't be fair on another child to risk another failure. Sw probably wouldn't support it even if we asked, which we haven't in order to avoid the embarrassment of being refused

@topcat2014 I'm thinking of you and hoping you are OK. It must be very tough and I just hope this counselling will help you. XXXXXXX

@topcat2014 it’s a lot to come to terms with. I hope that the counselling is helpful and you can get to a more positive place. Big hugs to all of you.

Thanks everyone

I have thought about you a lot over the past couple of weeks and hope that things were getting a little easier. I can’t imagine being in the situation that you find yourself and I hope that the therapy really helps in terms of moving on.

Hey @topcat2014 how are you getting on, how has the counselling been going?

Hi dash. I have had two counselling sessions. They are helping. Still feeling sad every day, but functioning normally. Must aadmit the story about the little American boy inviting his class to court set me off

Oh I just googled it - I can see why you’d find that hard. It made me think of the little girl we were going to adopt (7yr old), I still think of her most days. It is so awful imagining that perfect happy ending they would have had...but it’s just imagination coming up with a glowy, rose tinted version whereas reality would likely have been very different. Glad that the counselling is helping you and life is going on