Relationship Breakdown

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Good Evening Wise Ones,

My friend really wants to adopt. She and her long term partner had just started the application and assessment process and have sadly decided that their relationship is no longer working, they are going to separate. She still really wants to proceed with her application and knows the child she would like to adopt.

My question is will this still be possible? What does she need to do for the LA to continue with her application?

Thank you very much!

In my experience she’ll need time more than anything - they will want to know she’s had time to process the end of the relationship and that she’s clear about where her supports will come from if she goes ahead. I’d expect them to want her to take a break from the process for 6 months or so and then reconsider her.

I think 6 months might be a bit optimistic. They are going to have to disentangle their lives - where will she live, what can she afford as a single person, Can she support a child on her salary, how will she manage adoption leave, childcare, will she lose key figures in her support network.
Adopting as a single person is very different to adopting as part of a couple, she will need to rethink the whole basis of her application. Apart from all the practical stuff, she will need to come to terms with her emotional loss.
To be honest she probably needs to put adoption way on the back burner and focus on getting her life sorted out.

Thank you both!

She is lucky as she will be able to stay in her home and works from home too. She will obviously need time to process and adjust though.

What do you mean by knows the child she wants to adopt? How far in the approval process is she?