Starting nursery, feeling the guilt!

[Spotsandstripes1]

I think I'm looking for reassurance really. Little girl has been with us since birth, now 16 months. Starting nursery one day a week. Have started settling in days this week and it's not going too well. I left the room today for 5 minutes and she screamed the whole time! When I'm in the room she plays quite happily.
I'm worried I will damage her attachment by sending her to nursery. Im worried she will cry all the time. I'm feeling so guilty!
But I really really need this day a week for myself (to work and also get some rest).

jellycats you are a social worker and you have done some training in psychological issues as well, is that right? With all due respect you are also not an expert, and you are also misreading what I have said.

I’m a social worker with 25 years experience in child protection, a registered psychotherapist with a specialism in working with adult survivors of childhood trauma and hold Masters qualification in Trauma. I would respectfully suggest the debate is quite a bit more nuanced - and considerably more complex - than you present.

In any case, it’s not helpful to derail the OPs thread which is actually about her supporting her child to access nursery care which she’s decided they need. I’m happy to take up the wider debate elsewhere.

I am sorry about being slow in response, jellycat. Thank you for confirming your qualifications, which are basically what I understood them to be. I would respectfully suggest the debate is quite a bit more nuanced - and considerably more complex - than you present Well, that is your opinion, but I haven't written anything to lead you to that conclusion, and I have not presented a debate - I have briefly passed comment. If you would like to start a new thread to talk about the issues touched on by this thread, I'd be very happy to join in.