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Some wonderfully encouraging words from the inspirational Lemn Sissay

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Moominmammaatsea · 01/09/2019 22:14

The poet/writer Lemn Sissay, who is a brilliant role model for fostered and adopted children and young people, himself being a care leaver, has just published a book about his journey through the care system.

In an interview with The Sunday Times, Lemn, despite his terrible experience of the care system, spoke positively of the role that fostering and adoption can play in society.

"A child will test you emotionally, spiritually, financially, throughout your life, so to adopt a child is the greatest thing a human being can do for another. I am glad I have got to a place where I can see that really clearly."

Such encouraging words, particularly for those of us a long way down the road, especially for those of us for whom it has been a far from straightforward journey.

I think the second sentence may resonate for those of us with older children, who are just about clinging onto family status by the tips of our fingernails; it must be nice to be appreciated at some point in the far-flung future!

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Ted27 · 01/09/2019 23:17

I'm a huge fan of Lemn Sissay. I heard him speak just before my boy came home. I was able to speak to him and asked him if he had any advice for me. He said always tell your boy the truth, I have tried to do that and it has stood me in good stead. I'm going to see his new tour in a couple of weeks
He also had a wonderful book of children's poems which was our bedtime favourite

Moominmammaatsea · 01/09/2019 23:40

Hi @Ted27, probably highly outing here, but my Big Girl (aged 11 & recently registered blind) and I (accidentally) happened to listen to the penultimate episode of the reading of Lemn Sissay's new autobiography/care memoir on Radio 4, while en route from our holiday in Northumberland to Edinburgh Zoo. I listened with bated breath as my daughter soaked up every (lyrical) word, while sat nonchalantly in the back seat of our car. It prompted THE most positive post-adoption conversation/interaction we have ever had in our 10 years of being a family. Lemn Sissay is my new hero!

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chocolikeice · 03/09/2019 18:26

Would you be able to link the full article, please? Thank you if you can.

Loubydoo · 05/09/2019 23:27

You can also listen to Lemn on Desert Island Discs on iPlayer. I was deeply moved by it. I am the child of a mixed race adoptee who went on a journey with my parent to find his birth family so Lemn’s story resonated strongly with me. He said (of an adoptive adult child) finding their birth family... “that child throws light on secrets and stories that families have built up to be their own truth. The child brings war. But they also bring peace”. I only listened to this three days ago and I’ve not been able to get it out of my head. Every single word could have been about my own family experience. Highly recommend listening to it.

Loubydoo · 05/09/2019 23:52

@Ted27 would love to know the name of the book of poems please?

Ted27 · 06/09/2019 12:20

@loubydoo the book is called the Emporer's Watchmaker

Ted27 · 20/09/2019 21:55

I'm on my way home after being to Lemn Sissays book reading.
I've followed his story for some years now but I was completely blown away tonight. He is such an incredible person. I managed to get a bit of a chat with him.
We have been having a hard time recently with something I'm not yet able to talk about but I'm coming away feeling inspired and with renewed energy.
And he signed our very battered copy of his poems for my son.

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Moominmammaatsea · 21/09/2019 10:36

What a wonderful experience,Ted. You've inspired me to buy Lemn's new book today from our local independent book store. I have this (probably ridiculous) notion that my daughter and I can read it together, in a mother/daughter reading club kind of way! I think it will be a helpful way of gently prompting some life story chat, while reinforcing to my daughter, who has experienced a turbulent year health-wise, that life can still be rich in opportunities and that it is possible to move beyond even the worst setbacks.

Somebody up-thread asked me to post a link to the full interview, but The Times operates a pay-wall system and only subscribers can access its material. I have however screenshot some sections which resonated for me in particular; the first section, I think, is quite apt given the separate discussion on this board about how some local authorities are 'penalising' care experienced children who are eligible for DLA, say, by making deductions from adoption allowances.

The words in the section in which Lemn reflects on the 'job' done by foster carers and adopters could hopefully give everyone here a little boost and a lift to their spirits.

Some wonderfully encouraging words from the inspirational Lemn Sissay
Some wonderfully encouraging words from the inspirational Lemn Sissay
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