Documentaries/ Watch list

[selly24]

I have just spent the last week or so watching/ rewatching Love is not enough and also Protecting Our Children.

Emotional, beautiful and harrowing in equal measure.

Just wondering if there are any other list sees for prospective adopters?

Must sees!

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/adoptions/2046566-Adoption-on-Television-Links-to-all-available-past-programs

Try this.

Thank you!!

Don't know if it's on that list but really recommend the adoption podcast from BBC radio 4's the world at one. You can find it easily on the bbc sounds app

Wanted a family of my own is on daily motion. It's 4 parts.

This is interesting, based in Northern Ireland.

Find Me A Family Episode 1

This is so heartbreaking but good to watch. If you watch it, you will most likely feel a real lump in your throat when they talk about the child giving her mum a dolly.

And

Find Me A Family Episode 2

If you only have time to watch one, watch episode 2 because it is so fabulous. But you can watch them out of order because they are totally different families/children in both.

Any recommendations for adult adoptees talking about their experiences?

I have just rewatched ‘Finding me a Family’ the 2017 channel 4 documentary about activity days.

All the children were so lovely but very sad that these ‘hard to place’ children may spend life as a looked after child. Archie was such a cutie, I was quite surprised he was considered so challenging to place!

I couldn’t believe that the two boys were difficult to place either!!!! It was so sad!

Beemail1

"Any recommendations for adult adoptees talking about their experiences?"

Long lost family on ITV hib is brilliant and very moving.

Selly24

Do you mean the young brothers?

They were lovely and yes very sad that they were considered so hard to place. All I would say is that after experiencing a transracial placement and a transfaith (I may have invented this word) placement SWs do not make it easy! They will consider these placements now but views haven’t moved on that much! It is also quite tricky to raise a child as you would if they were your birth child whilst bringing them up with a different religion and different culture. I would like to think that it is not so much that a white couple wouldn’t want to place a black child or vice versa.

Not a documentary per say but I found the film ‘lion’ useful to watch after you have really read and understood attachment difficulties and early trauma.

If you have not seen it it is about a little boy in India who fell asleep on a train about the age of 3/4 and ended up lost hundreds of miles away from his rural Indian home. Eventually, when they could not locate where he was from he was adopted by an Australian family. A year or two later they adopted another boy from an Indian orphanage who has more or less grown up on the streets.

The outcomes for both boys in life were entirely different. The first one who had by the age of three been well loved and nurtured by his birth mum, and has secure attachments although did obviously experience major trauma in the separation. He was able to transfer these attachments well to his adoptive parents and did fairly well on life/education. They second brother was never able to develop secure attachments and grew up to have major dependency addictions and general did not do well in life. For me it helped me to see the importance of good healthy early attachments and the effects of early trauma. The first boys main difficulties in life grew from his inability to get answers to who he was, where he was from and in general his lifestory.

It is based on a true story.