Had a really trying time. Dh has been so ill and in and out of hospital. He is now on the mend but obviously this has affected our AD (5yrs). She adores her daddy and was very upset over his illness. I have also been a crap mum as I struggled to keep us all going through the worry and the times in hospital. I've barely coped and suffer terrible guilt.
I spoke to AD a lot about him, reassuring her the doctors were making him better. We talked about the fact it takes time. She understood and was actually brilliant.
He has been home a couple of weeks now and she is struggling hugely. She is so happy but all she says is how she missed him and is he better now. I go through it with her multiple times a day and I let her help with making his tea etc. He is still ill and on lots of medication that makes him grumpy/feel odd. He is desperately trying to give her his attention but she is just non stop.
Now I don't need anybody to tell me what Is going on here. I know the poor girl is worried about her daddy, she is also back at school next week. She tells me she misses me when I'm at work. She needs our attention and I totally understand why. Of course the poor girl does!
My issue is that it never seems to be enough? Does that make sense? Like,when I'm driving, she is in the back demanding I look at her. I explain I can't etc. When I cuddle her, it's like it just isn't enough. She is now not sleeping either so tired as well. I feel like she wants me to sit, looking at her, 24hrs a day with nothing else. I am desperately trying to set aside time for her and give her more cuddles etc but it is never enough.
I have normal life and a sick dh to care for. I feel like locking myself in the toilet and hiding.
I just don't seem to be able to achieve what she needs from me. I feel horrendous. Just a handhold would be good. I know sensibly that she will settle again in time but bloody hell it is so hard right now 