Saying No To First Match

[MissHL]

Well, myself and my partner were presented with our first potential match after recently being approved, and without going into detail we have come to the conclusion that based or certain needs we dont believe we can meet and gut instinct saying this isn't the child for us, we are going to decline.
Although I know this is the right decision, why do I feel awful? Why do I already feel almost like I'm grieving? We have wanted this for so long now. Is it ok to say no? How should i be feeling right now? Please help!

Of course it’s ok to say no, in fact it’s important you do because there may be someone that would meet that child’s needs perfectly. It’s hard after waiting so long to say no to a potential link, but follow your gut - this isn’t a decision you can change your mind about 3 years down the line if it all get too much. A good friend advised me to look for the most straightforward, uncomplicated match possible because even that will bring its challenges, if any part of you says “no”, I’d be listening to that part and only proceeding if you’re sure it feels ok.

I hope you’re not waiting too long.