Potential match.

[wonderinglill]

After a heartbreaking potential link fell though we are due to meet the social worker and family finder of a dear little girl next week.
We are excited, nervous and terrified they won't like us. Any recent success stories or any advice on how to approach this meeting. They expressed interest in us. Have waited a while to meet us, have read our reports and are only considering us. All seems very positive.

Any advice on what to expect and what questions we should ask? We know the obvious ones but trying think out of the box to make an impression.

How long on average does it take to get a decision is its a confirmed link?

We've tried to forget about it a for 2 weeks but having been given the meeting date today it's hit us right in the feels xx

How exciting, hope it goes well.
Are you the only couple they are visiting?

The info you need is the info needed to decide whether to proceed or not, and if possible to get a bit of a 'feel' (though that can come when you meet the FC)

These are all rhetorical questions (plus some statements), I'm not expecting answers.

• how up to date is the general info. Any reading between the lines to be done? eg use of words 'lively', 'responds well to boundaries', or whatever
• how up to date is the medical info - is there anything in there you need to explore further
• 'meeting milestones' is very broad it is not the same as 'average'
• what contact is envisaged, can you handle it
• can you see a picture, do you feel this is a child you could love

re making good impression.
If there are any medical issues have a read up on them so you can ask intelligent questions
Do you know any groups or places that might be appropriate once child is settled. e.g. playgroup, swimming, messy play, sandpit, ….
Sound ethusiastic

Thanks for your positive response. All information is up to date. Written just last month. All medical reports etc right up to date as young child. We've discussed in depth with our SW and it seems perfect. We got stung with last potential match so fair play to our SW she is making sure we know everything (obviously as much as she can).
Yes we have seen a picture. Absolutely adorable. The picture is burned in my brain. There is nothing so far telling us no just head and heart shouting big fat yes.
The examples you give above are very helpful. You are a lot like me in terms of picking up on something and trying to read between the lines. I've tried and come up with nothing. The last link literally made me lose sleep there was so much uncertainty and reading between lines.

We live in a great community where there's children's groups etc within walking distance. Literally on our doorstep and have everything a short car journey away. Plenty of schools, leisure centres etc.

Only we are getting visited. FF feels its positive and has done alot of work because our SW has been off.

Really appreciate your response. Very helpful xx

All sounds very positive

We adopted 12 years ago (where does the time go?), my eldest is now 20!

Best wishes

Thank you very much xx