My DH is the step father to my DS, he has been there since I was 4 months along. We are thinking about him adopting my ds who is on the asd, but he read a article that said they might have to write a letter to the biological person?
Back story:
I was 18, the other man 10 years older. We were at a flat, I said no to intercourse but after a beer I don't remember the rest of the night. My parents said I seemed rather drunk when I got home that night but I just don't remember anything. Fast forward 4 months i find out I am pregnant, terrified that it was him I wet myself that day at work. He started messaging me again asking for photos and I tolove him I was pregnant. He freaked! He told me I was pathetic, would be a s**t parent, I should get rid, he has a girlfriend, just a load of verbal abuse. Then suddenly he changed, asked to meet up, i said no and he went back to his abusive words.
I had the scan a little while later and he was more interested in body photos (disgusting). I said no, he just got abusive again, so I blocked him. I only know his name and that he had another child that was quite older but he was more interested in playing x box and having party fun than paying child support. I haven't seen him since 2014, he knows where I live but never made an effort to visit during the pregnancy nor do i believve he wants to. I believe he isn't very well mentally and think he would get involved just to torment me. I am shaking just writing this.
Every time I think about him I wet myself and have nightmares about him wanting to be in Ds life anD find that I have wet the bed. I once thought I saw him in a shop years ago and wet myself in public.
Would they need to get in contact for his consent? I barely remember his face, only know his first name and that is it.
Please help with some advice!!