Can anyone signpost me to a good adoption agency pl?Anyone used surrogacy service in uk?

[lovelondon8]

I know it is a very sensitive subject but any info will be much appreciated. Want a child and life simply puts on barriers, nature seems to be unfriendly to older women, at least that's how I am made to feel and yet the urge of being a mother still lives at 45 +. Services are advertised making one feel " oh all is not lost" and yet the red tapes make things ever so complex that one starts loosing hope, disappointment and fear creep in - "will I be a mom ever"? . We are gathering all kinds of info at this stage as having a baby via IVF is proving very difficult. Having had miscarriages, it is getting harder to go through the pain of the losses.This will help us make the right decision , it feels our ages and time , although living in 21st century, is against us - hence querying. Any useful info will be simply great!

[nespressowoo]

You might be better off posting in the adoption board - there are lots of helpful people there. Good luck

[1CantPickAName]

I don’t know about adoption agencies but I looked at the website for my local authority. It had lots of information and I’m attending an information event this week.

[Ted27]

You are asking two very different questions. Is there a surrogacy board here that may be able to help with that?
What makes a good agency depends on the individual - you can use a local authority or a charity such as Action for Children or Banardos.
Its helpful to talk to a few and see who you get on with.
Adoption is not an easy option, the process can try the patience of a saint. It has its own share of red tape and hoops to jumo through. Its also very emotional. Agencies usually require you to have a break of 6 months after the end of fertility treatment before you start the adoption process. Good luck with your decision making

[lovelondon8]

Hi, thanks for getting back. Im a new user - where is the adoption board please?

[lovelondon8]

Hi,
Best wishes. I will look into the local authority one and get some info although would prefer agencies if we chose that option. thank you for getting back- do let me know if you wish how was the session pl.

[lovelondon8]

Hi,
Thanks for your message- very useful. I'll talk to a few and see how we get on - that's definitely a good idea and you are right with all what you said - if we can get some basic information at this stage I guess we won't waste time to choose the next best option if fertility treatment didn't work at all - yes it is very emotional and being a social worker in the past ( have a change career now) I am aware of the red tape - good god - there are over 70000 children waiting to be adopted in uk and there are lots of families who would like to but I know of some who had left the process in the middle just because it is simply cumbersome and difficult - one family just couldn't carry on because of the emotions and the some of the formalities make it hard for people to complete as they couldn't get much time off work - I am totally for safeguarding but the system has gone too far i think (personally)- I feel bad for those lovely kids who could do with a loving family and stability and yet the gov hasn't made it easy at all. I guess it will be a trial if we have to go through that. The process isn't reflective of a 21 set century world for sure !! personal view though. Thank you for your comments once again.

[Ted27]

I dont think there are 70,000 children waiting for adoption. There may be that number in the care system but not all of them will be looking for adoptive families.
I'm not saying the process is perfect but I do think it should be rigorous, adoption is not easy, the children can be very challenging, its not for everyone.