Searching for my birth child

[Imfinallyhappy1]

Hi everyone,

I had a son at 15 who was adopted, due to circumstances I saw him once when he was born and then never again.

He was adopted and I have all the paperwork but it’s in Spanish.

I feel I’m at a point I would like to search for him, he will be 17 now.

Does anyone know what I need to do? I don’t have any birth certificates and my parents are not forth coming with information.

Thank you

I am sorry about your experiences.
I believe there is a service you can register to say that you will be approachable but, they cant trace him.

www.gov.uk/adoption-records/the-adoption-contact-register

You need to prepare for the fact that he might not be ready for contact and it could be years before he is. I am a birth parent also.

If the paperwork is in Spanish I assume the adoption was not in the UK? Regulations may be different where the adoption took place.
However, as dark river says, you need to be prepared that he is not ready or want to meet you at all.
He is still only 17, as an adoptive mum, whilst very sympathetic to my son's birth mum, I wouldn't be happy if she contacted him before adulthood.
I know this is difficult for you but you do need to put your son's needs first. I would strongly advise that you go through an intermediary service.

Imfinallyhappy1 this must be so painful.

I think you need professional help in the country where he was adopted.

Like others I would advise you wait until he is 18 but I would look into the details and using an intermediary service. I would also get some counselling to prepare yourself.

I am sorry your parents are being so unhelpful. I think you may just need to do this without their assistance but I would imagine when/if you find your son your parents will realize how cruel they have been in not assisting you.

Please do get some professional help with this.