Adoption order

[darkriver19886]

Friend popped round this morning with a letter regarding the adoption order. Confusion at first as to why its been sent to the wrong address as haven't lived with him for 18 months and I have been diligent updating my details.

Knew what it was before I had opened. Start reading it and laughed in a trying to hold back tears way. "if you wish to attend the hearing please tell us on or before the 6th May."

Nice to have a bit of notice. Lucky I had already decided not to go or contest. Not because I don't love my girls. It's the opposite.

I am now sat here sobbing my heart out. I hate this.

Oh lovely of course you are. This makes it final in legal terms and no matter what your head tells you in terms of it being the right thing for your girls your heart will be breaking all over again.
You will always grieve their loss but at times like this it must be v deeply felt and almost unbearable.
Sending love and hugs and saying once again that you are an amazing parent to have prioritised your daughters wellbeing above your own and for being willing to bear the enormous cost of that in heartache and pain. There is no higher love than that xxx

These thing's always happen to spoil long weekends too, don't they.
A shame they hadn't checked the dates and put 7th May.

I know you have made a decision, which is a valiant one, but even so it makes it seem this letter has 'decided' that for you by arriving late.

Best wishes as always.

That was my first thought topcat. I checked the date on the letter and it went out two weeks ago. No idea why it was delayed.

Hi darkriver. I didn’t contest the adoption order however I went to the hearing, as for me it was a way of closure, it had been for me a long painful process.

I like you, despite accepting it was best for my son, stood in the court with tears running down my face and broke my heart. I cried the entire journey home too from the Court. Just because it’s the right thing for your children that doesn’t mean you have no right to hurt and to feel.

Thinking of you x

Thanks Miracle. I wish I had my adoption support worker still. Luckily I have a therapist to talk to thankfully.