Not in control

[Sillyshell]

I really need help and advice on how to deal with my kids, especially my daughter. There are occasions where I literally have no control over either of them and it ends up being dangerous.

Neither of them will listen to me or stop when I tell them etc and it's getting to the point where I'm dreading going anywhere with them

My daughter has screaming fits if any thing goes wrong or if we tell her no, I feel like I'm at my wits end most days

She is a nursery 3 mornings a week and no concerns have been raised, I just need some help in dealing with it all

Please Sillyshell contact post adoption support and ask for help urgently.

How long have your girls been with you?

Were they adopted from your area? If not, and if they have joined you recently, then you may need to ask the placing authority for the help but they may still use services from your local area.

We had a kid of play therapy called 'Theraplay' when our son was about 5 or 6, it helped a lot and we are hoping for more before he goes to secondary school.

Good luck, please do ask for help.

Can you give some examples of where things get out of control and what happens? For example, if it is a pre schooler while walking down a road, it is reasonable to tell them you'll be holding hands, but it really depends on what you mean.

You could ask nursery for some tips if you say they don't have an issue. Apparently you can also ask your HV though it probably depends on the HV. And you could have a look at ahaparenting as she has strategies for various age groups.

Or give examples here?

Are they ok at home, is it just out and about that they ignore you?

If you saying you don't want to go out because of the shouting and screaming when you impose boundaries, then don't be embarrassed, it won't last forever. Most parents have been there, and even if your dc's behaviour is more extreme than average, you can't just not take them out, so just ignore other people, and do what you need to do - however bad it is, for most parents it won't be on their radar, they will be focusing on their own.