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Less than a week to go..... any advice?

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excitedmuchly · 22/04/2019 13:30

Suddenly I have less than a week to go till intros start with my daughter! Eeek!! Anyone got any useful titbits of advice either for intros or for 1st few weeks?

My daughter ( will I even get used to saying that??!!) Is 4 and I'm a single adopter.... Am very excited but also really nervous ( which I'm hoping is normal... yes?!)

I'm at the stage of mild panic I think... I woke up at 4am today thinking about whether or not she has a swimsuit! Lol

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Ted27 · 22/04/2019 14:28

Congratulations !
Sleep, have long bubble baths, eat grown up food, have a few beers, enjoy the peace and quiet, take a photo of your house whilst its still tidy!
Seriously though, get some rest, fill the freezer. Take your lead from her during intros. Have a few things planned for when you get home - just one thing a day to get you out of the house - nothing too exciting, we had a trip to join the library, one to join the gym so we could swim, one to the park, one to the coffee shop.
it will feel very strange, try not to have too high expectations about feelings and emotions. Try not to put pressure on yourself to be instant perfect mum.
Its a hard but exciting time
Im a single adopter, so I know how scary it it seems going into this alone. 7 years on we are in full on teenage obnoxious mode, but we are doing well

UnderTheNameOfSanders · 22/04/2019 14:47

Don't expect to feel instant love.
Act like you know what you are doing in front of her.
You won't be perfect, don't expect to be - good enough is good enough.
Try to enjoy her.
Bubbles work well with most children. Do the care yourself, but don't be afraid to go to the park to socialise too.
TV is fine in short bursts it gives you time to have a cup of tea.
Congratulations. Flowers

SaveOurSausages · 22/04/2019 18:08

Try not to have any expectations of how it will go! You may both click or she may spend a lot of time hiding!

Stock up on anything to make you feel better/provide you with comfort. It is intense and if you are a homebody like me, it is very hard to be in someone else's house with people you don't know. Have low expectations of everyone and yourself!

excitedmuchly · 22/04/2019 18:28

Thank you everyone for your wise words.
I've stocked up on chocolate !!

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