do these add up to not being foster parents?? can i change anything?

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yoddle!

i have always wanted to foster, i recently seriosly descused this with the yettie and he was very up for it in the future!

we want to have 3 bio kids if possible then, since yetti family only make boys we wanted to foster to adopt a girl over 5 quite happy with a teen, pref with some sort of disability as i have had many problems and feel i could help quite well.

after that we would have maby 2 more bio kids then start fostering when youngest is teen.

my question/worries are, i have some sort of bipolar and anxiety attacks, will this rulemeout?

i am physically disabled by m.e. so use wheel chair often and neerly constantly on a crutch but i still get most things done!!

our biokids would be homeschooled, would this push out foster kids? can i homeschool adopted children if they wished it? (pretty sure cant h/e fostereds??)

yettie and i will be living on a canal boat, possibly in a marina sowed have an address is that ok??

im pretty sure wed have to not c/c (move every 14 days) thou i think we can give that up by then for a child.

yettie and i are pretty hands on food growy/meet killing people. is that to weird??

errrr thinkthats it!!! sorry bot spelling mistakes this puter has no back button!!

oh yettie works but i am on disability willbe a stay at home mama!

thanks for reading all that grin

beaniexxxx

OK, Beanie, Here's how it went for me. I wanted 6 children, DH wanted 'some'.

During my pregnancy with DS1 I had really bad morning sickness. Being sick several times a day, unable to get to sleep at night because I was vomiting and increadible tiredness. I had a kidney infection at 23 weeks, was undianosed by the first Dr I saw. Ended up on IV antibiotics and in hostpital for a week. Horrid, horrid labour, an experience I wouldn't wish an anyone, ever. So having been thrown into the joys of mother hood, with a very damanding baby, I wasn't to keen to repeat the experiance any time soon.

However, knowing I really wanted another child, I took the plunge. I had an easier pregnancy and birth, but with hindsight had pnd. Although My DS were both very healthy, there were always those little suprises that life throws at you like tummy bug, when your baby needs holding 24/7 for a week and you are unable to do anything, or eye apointments every 6 weeks for DS who's eye needed patching, but he refused point blank to wear it. And suprise 3rd pregnancies which challenge the threory you have to have sex to get pregnant. And the dreadful undiagnosed pnp, the tantrums the the sleepless, nights, the seemingly endless breastfeeding.

Having 3 chlden with no special needs, my hat goes off to every parent who has had a baby in scbu, has a childwho requireds regular health checks, needs to be hospitalised or has a disability. After all, you never know what what type of baby you'll get.

Being a parent is HARD WORK.

Actually, I think Cod put it a lot better than I have.

lol! no im not 17!! im nearly 21.

i am working very closley with my doc re meds, my health is very important with out that i cant be the mother i want to be. i know that

re kids in a small place have been talking to a n irish traveling girl (thou posibly galango?) who was one of six in a traditional vardo. and they loved it! thou not sure id do that. its a case of what workes for one dosent for another.

thanks for your responces thou. think fostering is a deffinate back burner / not gonna happen

Don't mean to be gloomy and appreciate that it is nice to have a plan/dream but you never know how things are going to turn out.

Dh and I wanted to have three kids but having one with serious health problems and a second with some difficulties too, we have decided to stop there and make the most of what we have.

To my mind you cannot seriously consider having 6 children until you have had the first 5.

great that you are responsible re your health. its true that you can have bipolar and be a great parent but its hard. dh is fairly well most of the time, high functioning, successful, but we have had to face the fact that his bipolar means that he could not parent alone, if anything happened to me he would share care with my mum or sister. you do sound fun and interesting - both great qualities in a parent.

I have a bipolar friend who has 2 children and is a superb mum. She was very stable for several years, then unfortunately needed to be hospitalised due to a severe manic episode, but she is back to normal again now. She manages her illness without meds and has breastfed both children for a total of 4 years so far

She is very lucky to be able to cope without meds,( but agree some do...), bipolar is serious illness and meds are usually necessary...they do not combine well with pregnancy.