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Princess2000 · 10/03/2019 20:41

Hi all,

We are just finishing stage 1 and our SW has told us as part of stage 2 we have to go and volunteer with children we don't know.

We are really struggling to find anywhere, did any of you find this?

Thanks

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UnderTheNameOfSanders · 10/03/2019 21:22

I was working part time because I'd dropped hours when doing IVF.
I volunteered in a local pre-school once a week and then at a primary after school club once a week also.

Very, very, useful. We wouldn't have been matched without it.
They didn't make DH do any but this was 10+ years ago.

Other people do rainbows/beavers.

It is best to try to volunteer with the age group you are aiming for.

Princess2000 · 10/03/2019 21:42

Oh ok thanks for this, my next question was is it really necessary and is it mandatory?

It's such a struggle whilst we are still both still working full time,

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UnderTheNameOfSanders · 10/03/2019 22:03

We didn't have young children in the family so I knew nothing at the start.

I got confidence interacting with a wide range of children from a wide range of ages. (we were eventually placed with a 2.5 & 7yo)
I learned what the 'average' child could / couldn't do at different ages.
I saw discipline techniques in use.
I saw quiet children, confident children, clever children, less clever children.
I learned how to help them without taking over.
I learned how to praise pictures even when I had no idea what they had drawn (oh, I love the colours you have used, tell me about your picture)
I saw a wide range of activities which I was then later able to reproduce with my own children when they arrived
I got to know parents in our town that I then sometimes 're-met' at childrens activities after placement

I volunteered for 2 years, from after our training course all the way through until just before intros. I used to really enjoy it.

You could get approved without childcare experience, perhaps (though I doubt it). But you wouldn't get matched, or it would be loads harder. Why would a child's SW place with clueless you rather than experienced other person.

If at all possible, I would talk to work about whether, if you could find somewhere, you could do flexible hours, or a shorter week or whatever.
But ask your SW what sort of experience they are looking for, it is them you have to please.

Serenity45 · 11/03/2019 02:02

Hi, we were approved at panel last June and are hopefully moving forward with a match as of last week. My husband and I also work full time (in different towns) and I don't drive.

We had lots of childcare experience (neices and nephews overnight regularly from a few weeks old, time with other kids etc) and thought we wouldn't need to volunteer. SW had different ideas and it did take some detective work, but we've been volunteering at a club for looked after children for 18 months now on a Saturday morning. Ages from 4 to 16 and a range of challenging behaviour from some kids.

I can honestly say we love it. Made some good friends with foster carers and adoptive parents and our SW (and adoption panel) were impressed we found something and stuck with it.

See if your area has any similar clubs, or perhaps also look at children's centres? Experience with non neurotypical kids will be valuable, as so many adopted children have a range of different issues.

Good luck!

Princess2000 · 11/03/2019 12:55

This is great thank you for the comments

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beansonbread · 11/03/2019 19:43

Have you thought about volunteering at a local Beavers/Cubs/Scouts or Rainbows/Brownies/Guides? Brownies etc is just for girls but Beavers etc is boys and girls so you'd get to see a wider ranger of children and therefore more experience. Groups like these are always looking for extra help.

topcat2014 · 12/03/2019 07:16

I am now a Beaver leader - and love it. The kids are 5 3/4 to 8, and you do see a lot of variation, behaviour issues etc.

We also have a DD.

We ended up approved for 3-5

howmanyusernames · 12/03/2019 12:46

Can you get experience looking after your friends' children, ones you maybe don't know well (the children not the friends)?

I sometimes think a lot of these 'asks' are 1) because they have a box to tick, and 2) to see if you are willing to do as they ask and your reaction to it.

I was asked to get more childcare experience, so I looked after my friends 2 year old a couple of times, and then did one afternoon a week at a local school, but was in a class of 6/7 year olds (we wanted 0-2 years).
The LA didn't even check I had done any of it.

I'm not saying don't, but if you can show willing it will go in your favour. I think there are a lot of weekend activities you can do too.

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