Less then a week to go until I meet the adopters!

[darkriver198868]

I am so anxious about the meeting and I know the adopters will be as well. I have so many questions swirling around my head. My mental health makes anxiety worse. I have also booked my usual therapy for Friday instead.

Will it be overkill if I made an effort with my appearance?

Go slightly fancy, but not too much, otherwise it'll go wrong because they'll feel you always try too hard. My sister had the same situation (minus anxiety) and made it through wearing medium casual, but smart too.

I was going to wear my smart trousers, white t shirt and blazer. A lot of my wardrobe is jeans and t shirts lol

The adopters want to meet you, as you are. You are very brave! They will be anxious too. Good luck!

Your outfit sounds perfect River . I'm sure nobody will be thinking about clothes but it's important that you feel comfortable in it.

Would it help if you write down the questions as you think of them? You could keep a notepad or phone by your bed to jot them down if you can't sleep. Then you'll have the list with you for the meeting.

I hope the meeting is as helpful as possible for everyone.

Good luck. It may be suggested that a photo is taken of you all together for life story book- this is not compulsory but may be discussed.

Lots of luck River, wear what will make you feel most comfortable. SW took a photo of us with BM at our meeting which went into DS life story book. He found it comforting to know that we'd met BM, most of all that we were able to tell him she was ok - he was worried about her

At our meeting everyone was a bit anxious, but I think we all found it helpful.

Dark river please do make an effort if it makes you feel better! They may take a photo of you with the adopters. They did for us! after I met my daughter’s birth mother it really helped me. I will be able to tell my daughter that her birth mother was warm, friendly and sweet. This will provide a much needed balance to her adoption report.

I wish you so much luck!

We were so pleased that we met with our children’s birth mother. Afterwards, I felt that we had a real connection and I certainly have respect for her. I was terrified though, possibly one of the scariest things I have done. Although we were matched and had started intros, I really did feel that her approval would mean the world to me. We all hugged at the end, and yes, we had that awkward photo taken, so do feel comfortable in what you are wearing, it may help you to relax. All the very best xx

Thank you, everyone for your responses. Nobody warned me about pictures though. Oh well, I will dress how I feel comfortable.

ah yes, the photo. You don't have to but the kids usually seem to like it.

Dress how you feel comfortable. We all want to present ourselves well. I think you want to make a good impression, they will too. I spent ages thinking about what to wear, its not as trivial as it sounds. Your outfit sounds fine.
best of luck

Dress up as much as you want, it will make you feel cofident and (if they notice past their own nerves) adoptive parents will like that you wanted to make an effort. Maybe not the tiara though...

@Kewcumber... Darn it.

Good luck Dark River. Adopters will be just as nervous about meeting you. Wear jeans if you want. Wear what makes you feel comfortable. When I met DS1s birth mother, I wore jeans and a smart grey jumper. She wore a nice leather jacket and jeans and had put some make up on. Don’t put mascara on - we both cried and at the end she reached out and hugged me and I hugged her back. We both cried.

Will be thinking of you - it’s a hard but worthwhile experience.

I hope a friend is going with you or will be there immediately afterwards.

OK maybe a very small one