Adopting a foster child....

[SleeplessInTheStaceym11House]

right long story and im not gunna be around much today but i'd like to hear peoples views.

my auntie is a foster carer, her first fosterchild was a 2 day old little girl...there were many delays set backs etc with the court case and she had this little girl for just over a year. Then it finally went to court and although my auntie who loved and protected that little girl wanted to adopt her they sent her to her aunt, who she barely knew and normally when she did see her she screamed at......anyway she had to go so she went (although my auntie hasnt given up the case for adoption). and now the poor little girl has regressed....shes not interacting shes losing weight, she wont feed herself (which she had been doing since around 7 month, shes now 17month) shes lost loads of weight and basically isnt the same child.

my auntie now has a court date for a few weeks and apparantly shes got a good chance of getting her back......

i dont know.....i suppose my real question is why did this child have to go through what shes been through before the SS decided that the babies aunts house is not the place for her?? i just find it so sad

Because laws state that family are preferred choice when placing children. Sad but true. I am guessing Auntie was given an assessment before the child was placed there. I know its horrible but hopefully your auntie will get the little one back.
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she did have a slight assessment but she lives in a 2 bedroom with her 2 teenage (boy and girl) how is that right?

i understand what your saying but i just feel for this poor little girl!!!

lisa is right, because family is incredibly important to a child's sense of identity and this is a big part of a child developing to their full potential. Social Services would not have been doing their job correctly if they had placed the child out of the family when there was a close family member who was willing and who was suitable.

Whether their assessment was done correctly as regards the family members actual suitability is obviously debatable and it certainly sounds as if the child hasn't thrived

Good for your aunt that she's continuing to fight for the little girl - let us know what happens when you know!

I feel for this child if she is not thriving due to her family not being good for her. We are a family fighting for our grandson of 5 weeks old and we are told that it could take a year before he is placed wih us. So I think it must be very difficult for foster carers to not get attatched to the child. I think it is a cruel process for all parties.

SOCIAL Services should have checked the aunt out straight away not left it this long.The child is the one that suffers which makes me very angry.I am a foster mother who has adopted one child so far but am in the middle of adopting another 3 childen whom i have had for many years and the parents have no contact which is there choice..

How did she manage to have a slight assessment? We are undergoing an assessment and it is very controlled and in depth? I am told this is common procedure. Social Services are very adament that they cannot take any risks.