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EU citizens adopting British child

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MurkyWaters · 29/12/2018 15:50

Hi,
Does anyone know if EU citizens who live in London and are adopting a British child, can legally move back to their country of origin with the adopted child? Once it has settled in the family of course. They are in the process of adopting and not sure, what, with the Brexit circus, they should do. Carry on or pack it in and move back to Holland.
Asking for friends.
Thanks!

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ElizabethDarcy88 · 29/12/2018 18:29

I'm not sure if I can work out from your post if they already have been matched to a child and they have the child living with them now.
if they do then my next question is, has the adoption order been granted yet? If not they won't be able to leave the UK without informing the child's social worker and certainly would not be allowed to live anywhere else whilst waiting for the order to be granted.

clairedelalune · 29/12/2018 20:01

Once the adoption order is granted you can do what you like.

If you are in the pre matching stages I would not voice this opinion in public.

MurkyWaters · 29/12/2018 21:15

Thank you for that. They have not been before the adoption panel yet. But it seems to me they need to talk to the authorities re. potential move back to their country.

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mrsed1987 · 29/12/2018 21:17

Once the adoption order is granted they are the parents so can move wherever

Thepinklady77 · 29/12/2018 21:26

As others have said once an adoption order is granted they have complete PR and can do as they wish. HOWEVER, they will be aware that any child who they adopt is likely to have significant ongoing difficulties relating to their early trauma. A move to another country may just not be appropriate.
Aside from that if there are ongoing difficulties they will want to access post adoption support (and assuming they are in England) access funding for therapy etc that may be needed. If they move to another country they will not have access to this. Getting the correct post adoption support may be very difficult for them.

So in a nutshell. A move is entirely legal but may well not be entirely adviseable or appropriate. They do need to accept this and be at peace with the fact that if they adopt they may never be able to complete such a move home.

fasparent · 29/12/2018 22:59

Not aware of which country you are from but can google Euro Adoptions
also more detailed information can Google Haigh Convention Euro Adoptions.

Yolande7 · 29/12/2018 23:07

We are European citizens and have adopted children in the UK. Our sw made sure, we would stay for at least a few years after the adoption. (We never wanted to move though.) Legally, you can move after the adoption order.

Looking back, it would have been a very hard thing to do. It would have been another massive change for our children: new language, culture, environment, school system, etc. We would not have been able to keep in touch with their former foster carers and siblings the way we do. Their life story would have gotten even more complicated and fractured. I would try hard to avoid such a move. I don"t think it is in the best interest of the child and most likely will come back to haunt them.

Besides, in many European countries the awareness of the impact of trauma is just not there. They might be hard pressed to find a therapist who is knowledgeable about and experienced in adoption.

BarbarianMum · 31/12/2018 11:24

It will also depend on the law in the country they are moving to. Some countries will require you to go through their adoption system even if you are adopting from abroad.

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