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WANNABMAMMA · 13/11/2018 01:29

Hi everyone, can I ask if it has been agreed that it's not a match have I the right to ask for feedback on that drcision and next question should my social be at that meeting when this decision is made? TIA

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KristinaM · 13/11/2018 08:53

I don’t know if you have a right to feedback.

But anything you got would simply be that another family were considered more suitable. They cannot tell you more without compromising the confidentiality of the other families involved and the child.

If there is a General issue that you can can act on then your Sw will tell you eg the panel were concerned about your lack of experience with children .

Lots of times you will be rejected for reasons you can’t change, eg where you live, having children already,

The placing agency and social worker get to decide who is at the meeting where this discussed. It’s not up to you or your worker.

It’s much like applying for a job. The employers hold all the cards. They get to decide who to interview and who is on the panel. They get to decide the criteria for hiring .

You may think you are the most qualified person in the world but you have no idea about the qualifications and experience of other applicants.

No one will give detailed feedback because of the risk of complaint or even litigation. It’s not in the company’s interest to do so.

I’m sorry you didn’t get the match you want. But you need to move on. If there is a general issue you can work on it eg high BMI, start saving to take more time off work

1099 · 14/11/2018 08:23

It's not necessarily true that the only response you got would be another family was more suitable, However it does depend what stage the decision was taken, I got deferred at Panel and then the LA decided not to go ahead, in the end neither I nor my SW could get any semblance of a reasonable explanation why but we deduced it was because they had realised the child had a lot more issues than they had told us about initially.
You have nothing to lose by asking but they aren't obliged to explain anything to you or your SW.

Italiangreyhound · 14/11/2018 08:53

Agree with others. They might give feedback.it would be good for you if it was relevant.

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