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Cabawill · 06/11/2018 12:28

Adopted my DS and DD (birth siblings) at age 5 and 3 almost 4 years ago. Both very challenging in completely opposite ways. Pushed me to the edge numerous times. Made me wonder if I was cut out to be a mum and I've spent most of it trying desperately to hold on to my patience, humour and sanity whilst dealing with behaviour management, learning therapeutic parenting, Post Adoption services, school exclusions, various referrals that never materialise.....

But this week, I've genuinely laughed with them both on more than one occasion. I've looked at them and felt a massive something that I hadn't before, we've rubbed along happily during half term with hardly any of the extreme sibling rivalry we normally do. I haven't been told how much they hate me because they aren't allowed extra screen time or that they want a new mummy who's better than me because they'll give them sweets whenever they want.

And I bloody love it! DS even helped me complete a job I was doing so I could finish quicker and join in playing with him. Is this what "normal" family life is like?!

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OoMatron · 06/11/2018 13:30

These are the things you need to tuck away for the dark times! Well done!

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 06/11/2018 14:10

I remember your posts from when you were struggling OP. So happy for you all that things have settled down. Long may it continue!

Cabawill · 06/11/2018 14:16

Thank you both.

I've definitely tucked away those smiles and laughs for another day. Was sad to wave them back off to school this morning and am looking forward to seeing them tonight (instead of dreading pick up and being summoned by the teacher).

Think maybe that little ray of sunshine will lead to me relaxing and enjoying more and possibly to them doing the same.

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Cassie9 · 06/11/2018 17:35

Lovely post. It's good to hear things are going well for you and your family

Kewcumber · 07/11/2018 18:27

Sometimes I think MN really really needs a like button.

Cabawill · 08/11/2018 00:01

I don't want to jinx myself as this time of year usually starts to become extra challenging, but I've got such a spring in my step at the moment. I've cried when I went to kiss my DD just now as I came to bed as I felt so much affection for her. She is a character and great when she's in charge but usually very oppositional and challenging with being expected to do anything (get changed into pyjamas/ wash hands after toileting etc) and it gets very exhausting to say the least.

They've both had excellent days at school and had not even one niggle at home with tea, reading, showers, teeth cleaning, story and bedtime (which is unusual for any household with young children!)

Please, please let it continue. I feel like I might be getting a bit of carefree back in my life after being in a cave of gloom for 4 years (almost as dramatic as DD 😂)

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Italiangreyhound · 09/11/2018 23:17

Cabawill fabulous.

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