NC for this, but regular poster on the adoption forum. So, we are just about to apply for the AO, and we have been thinking about adding middle names (I'm not looking for the rights of wrongs about changing names...I think we have done that on this board!). We have been thinking about this because of the claiming process that we need to do and also because of the fact that together, our sibs may be identifying (not security related), and if they choose too (later in life), they could go by their 2nd names.
Youngest is easy, no second name, so we can add it as a part of her story. Eldest does have a second name, which strangely, is a shortened version of my husbands name. So ideally, we would keep him as he is.
So Should we just add to the youngest's name and not the eldest's ...as I never, ever wanted to take away from the names the birth family gave them, which we would if we replace the eldest's second name with something we prefer, or should we leave eldest's second name as it is?? Would this have an affect to the eldest, that we added to his sibling's name but not theirs later in life??
I wouldn't change eldest's second name completely (because I don't want to take away, I want to add..if that makes sense), think 'rob' to 'Robert'. My worry is that we leave eldest's name as it is and it worries him in the future because we added to his sister's name but not his). Hope this makes sense??