Sorry for going awol. I ended up with a debilitating two day migraine!
Same story I've heard over and again I guess, they are 12 and 10, been with me since they were 1( months, adopted separately but full sibs.
Both diagnosed with attachment disorder, one is avoidant one is ambivalent, both in DDP therapy.
It's the violence and the utter misery that's swamping me. They despise each other and their whole goal
In life is to make each other fee crap either with words or hurting. They are also violent towards me.
There have been multiple issues at school with both of them, the youngest doesn't sleep and kicks off and trashes the house every single night.
The icing in the cake was after a huge kick off at two in the morning the neighbours made a referral to social services, the youngest was making quite severe threats and they thought it was me threatening them!
Husband works out of the country a lot and over the years family and friends have gradually distances themselves.
I'm trapped in the house with them. We can't go out as threat behaviour is so severe and quite frankly they are both runners so it's dangerous.
I run support groups throughout the area and I know I've helped a lot of people, but when it comes to my own I just don't know what to do anymore.