My feed
Premium

Please
or
to access all these features

Here are some suggested organisations that offer expert advice on adoption.

Adoption

Any Indian/South Asian Adopters here?

8 replies

Nupurk23 · 18/05/2018 17:10

Hi, My husband and I are looking to adopt a baby after a series of multiple miscarriages and traumatic experience with a stillbirth. I am convinced that this is the right route for us and not the surrogacy. But we have been advised by the Local authority and agencies that there are not enough babies from this ethnic pool in the UK. And the chances of us getting a baby of age range between 0-2 are next to none.

Do you know anyone from your circle who is from Indian subcontinent (India, Pakistan, even Middle East etc.) who has gone through the same process here?

We have no religion or background constraint, only the age preference and of course, the child needs to match our skin colour a bit if that makes any sense.. :(

Do you think its going to be a futile race?

TIA xx

OP posts:
Ted27 · 18/05/2018 19:04

no not futile but you need to be realistic. I suggest you contact Action for Children who specialise more in BME adoption.

You may have to wait longer for a match and be more flexible on the age range.

good luck

BPG20 · 18/05/2018 20:07

Sorry no personal experience but it depends on the demographic in your area - if there's a large Indian/South Asian presence in your LA, there are likely to be more children from that background who are looking for placements.

I don't think it would be too much of a struggle, especially since you can use Link Maker across the UK. You might have to wait a little bit longer, but it would definitely be worth pursuing.

fasparent · 18/05/2018 21:27

There is a National shortage of Foster carer's and adoptee's for such
group's. Think best too apply too a larger LA, who are in a larger partnership with each other. LA's such as Manchester. which includes most of Greater Manchester LA's and some in Cheshire.
Has a good recent OFSTED report for adoption and after adoption.
Would think other large LA's would be similar but worth checking out
only too me just a few min too check this out for you.
Wish you all the best.

mamoosh · 19/05/2018 10:50

Can you apply to an LA where there are large populations of your ethnicity?

We are international adopters and there were a few families of Indian or Pakistani heritage on our prep course who were adopting abroad in order to find a child of their heritage. I have to say that IA is not at all for the faint hearted and I would fully explore domestic first but it might be worth considering.

Cassie9 · 19/05/2018 11:32

On my prep course they brought in several adopters to speak. One couple were of Asian decent who had adopted a baby of the same ethnicity. Maybe chat to a few different adoption agencies - they be able to give you an idea of how many children from ethnic minorities are waiting for adoption. Good luck on your journey

hidinginthenightgarden · 20/05/2018 21:10

A VA may be better for you than an LA. I think they look further a field than LA.

kierenthecommunity · 21/05/2018 12:54

I heard of a couple where the male was of Pakistani heritage and his wife was white, and they struggled to get a match with a dual heritage or Asian child which was a bit surprising as they lived in West Yorkshire which is reasonably diverse. However they were matched in the end, only with a child placed with Birmingham adoption services who at the time (may be different now of course) were the largest adoption agency in the country Smile

PositivelyHopeful · 09/09/2018 23:06

Hi
We're both of indian heritage and spoken with both LA consortiums and multiple VAs
We are hearing the same as potential adopters
It was a real struggle for the LA to agree for an initial visit and we live in a good racially mixed LA just due to the lack of Asian children available for adoption.
I recommend that you speak with multiple agencies to review your options and see who will take your application forward
Good luck

Please create an account

To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.