Eek start my adoption wednesday

[Coolchick11]

Eek got my first meeting with adoption agency Wednesday feeling rather nervous about it it's only to gather info and then we have to choose which agency to go with if there is anyone else out there going through the same as me i would love to hear from you xx

Yes our authority asked us to not take any long holidays from August onwards for stage 2 so haven't booked anything. I am more woetisd about the workshops and training - having to take 3 days in August for workshop and 2 days for the sibling training and early permanence training that we want to do. Work give us 5 days but that's before the matching elements etc so may need use all holiday allowance x

We get our first visit next Tues after weekend in Cornwall eek I'm petfried what if she don't like us or the house it took quite a Few attempts on the phone to arrange a date and time to suit us all in sure it be ok but still got a lot to tidy upstairs before get our siblings but can do that whilst we are going through the process I even got my mum to do her mum touch to the house but still haven't finished with that hahaha
Cool Chick

I am tending to use my holidays - but I remember our first SW last Nov told us not to 'put our lives on hold' so we went and booked holidays.

Bear in mind that, after placement but before adoption order, you won't be able to get a passport for AC, so get your foreign holidays in now :)

We have a lot to do to the house too so starting that asap. Hubby will be doing garden while I strip wallpaper! We are actually in Croatia at the mo on a two week hol trying to get some us time in before it all goes mental! I actually had a bit of a freak out yesterday- we are at a resort where there are quite a few families. If I am honest all of the parents with small babies/children look so miserable- the men in particular and those that have two kids don't spend any time together- one couple I literally have not seen together the whole time - the dad tends to the oldest child and she has the baby. I just sat there thinking 'what are we letting ourselves in for!'. I think for me I almost have too much time to think and am worried will talk myself out of all x

im really confused at the mo and happy for any advise that anyone can give me we had a social worker came round to give us points on what to do correct our environment for children to come with live us did that fencing in the garden fencing our patio etc then she said that the manager would phone us on Wednesday which she did and she said that because my father in law passive smokes not in the house but in the garden it may prevent us from having younger children she has given us age limit 5 upwards but its kind of winded me a bit as I am desperate to have younger children I don't really know what to do and we are going for the older children scenario for now to see if this situation can be solved any advice greatful my hubby has said he will talk to his father about his smoking and we see if we can stop him smoking

Hi
Hope you don't mind me joining the thread.
I've noticed that some of you are with Barnados.
Do they look at potential children for adoption locally or nationally?

more the merrier welcome positivelyhopeful they look at both locally and nationally around the country xx

Are your inlaws likely to be providing childcare?
I have heard of smokers only being able to adopt older children but not because of relatives being smokers!
Do they live close by or drop in regularly? This is the only thing I can think would make such a difference.

Me and hubby wont be leaving my father in law with our children unfortunately father in law be living with us for three half years he smokes out and house dont smell of smoke

Our LA won’t place children in a house where anyone smokes. It’s not just about whether the house smells of smoke but children being exposed to smoking as a “thing” if you know what I mean?

Have they given you no guidance on how to overcome the smoking thing? It seems harsh that they haven't said 'if you do xx' then we may consider it?

ah right. If he lives with you I can see why they have said it.
Even if he smokes outside, the smoke will linger on him and the furniture he uses etc.

thanks anyway all we are trying to sort the situation out at the mo xx