Questions to ask Adopters.

[darkriver198868]

I have a chance to meet my daughters new family and I dont have a clue what to the ask them? If you met the birth family what questions do you wish you had been asked. I am aware that most questions are prescreened.

Just keep it general, has she settled well, ok at nursery/ school etc. What does she like to do/ play with/eat. Maybe things relating to her development - is she a baby - walking/talking or if older can she ride a bike type things. You just need to avoid any question which would give away location or other identifying information if you were to ask them.

I just had a bit of a chat with my son's birth dad. I think we talked football teams! It was a bit awkward at first, as you would expect but it was ok.
Hope it goes well for you

I’m a birth Mum. I met my sons parents within the run up to xmas so asked about plans. Real tree. How his speech was. If he still liked his football kit. Did they support a team. If they would tell him he was adopted.

There’s so many questions. For me I needed to meet them to kno my son was loved and safe.

Expect tears (my sons Mum burst into tears as soon as she met me) we were both blubbering messes (which was actually reassuring).

Ask social worker to ensure there are tissues

No advice but good luck.

We weren’t asked much when we met birth family. What we appreciated was information such as why first name was chosen, special memories we could keep alive, birth family interests such as favourite sport or music.