Adopting with epilepsy

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DN and already have a DS who is five, we would like another child but I can’t have anymore. We would love to adopt but I have epilepsy and my seizures are not totally controlled. I have managed with DS fine but just wondering if anybody has any experience of adopting a child when you have epilepsy or a disability

Would you ever be in sole charge of the child? Given the age of your child, you're looking at

No they have been this way for 10 years and I have tried everything, even gone down the surgery route

I have epilepsy and adopted almost 2 years ago. I had to think about what we could do to make it as safe as possible - things like not carrying a child down the stairs, not bathing them when you are alone in the house, support network if you feel rough before or after a seizure etc - all things I'm sure you had to think about when you had your son!
Our daughter was 11 months when she came home so no reason epilepsy should rule you out of adopting completely you just need to show you've thought about the risks and how you can minimise them as much as possible

I would recommend kicking off the process and having a really open and honest conversation with your social worker. I suffered from anxiety and she really helped me through the process and I adopted my dd (I have a birth dd too, she was the same age as yours too) 4 years ago.

It’s comoletely possible as health issues aren’t always a blocker especially as you can prove that you can live with it with a child in the household

I saw your other thread and wanted to comment there - but did not want to be eaten alive on AIBU!

Having a disability should be no barrier to adopting. You obviously manage parenting your DS (and caring for your DN).
The best thing to do is contact your local council adoption services - and go from there. You do have a medical during the adoption process, so its best to be honest about your epilepsy from the start - and work out how you can be as safe as possible etc.

I would caution you to not say anything to SIL if you did decide to dip your toe in the adoption pond - she sounds like a nightmare!

Ooooh, I read your thread about SIL last night! Nightmare, and it's her and not you! Clearly jealous! Soz to jump in on that!

Hello, did you adopt? Were you able to? xx